(Closed) The ultimate wedding showdown (*sigh…*)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Allow me to reminisce … First, a partial list of the things I completely don’t remember about basically every single wedding I’ve ever attended: what their invitations looked like, how fancy their chairs/china/silverware/etc were, how they decorated their venue, the intricate design on their cake, how expensive the dress looked, what food was served, whether they used real or fake flowers.

And now, some of the things I do remember: how blissfully in love the couple looked as they said their vows or during their first dance, whether the couple made me feel welcome (did they make the effort to talk to me, did they looked thrilled that I wanted to celebrate with them, were they good hosts), the fun I had partying with an awesome group of people.

At the end of the day, no amount of money can pay for the sorts of things that are truly memorable.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Aw hunny, don’t compare your wedding to hers!  Its hard to do, but you have to remember what the weddings really about.  And a lavish wedding doesn’t equate to a wonderful marriage/relationship. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I totally agree with Red here.. 

People can go to Florida whenever they want.. but its not everyday that your family gets to see you and your FH speak to the world your commitment to each other forever.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I love what redherring wrote, because its true. You only remember, in the end, if it was a happy event filled with love. And that’s all that matters, for real.

PS-if your cousin is as petty as she seems, I’m pretty sure it will be reflected in the way she hosts her wedding and how people see her. For people like that, karma always does the job.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I totally agree with @redherring she’s right. No one will remember the invites or the any specific details they will just remember they had a great time at your wedding! :o)

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Aw!  Your cousin doesn’t sound like she means to do this to you, it’s just her style, maybe? 

Let me second redherring – the best wedding I’ve been to was a sweet affair in the bride’s hometown, with her family doing all of the catering, and I have no idea what the centerpieces or invitations looked like.  I DO remember how everyone around them just glowed with happiness at their joy, and how VERY in love they looked.  I didn’t even know them that well (distant cousin), but it was just obvious they were so happy! 

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I wish I had that problem.  FI’s brother who started dating his now fiance last year, got engaged after us, and is now getting married a month before us.  Also, his cousin is getting married two weeks before us and another of his cousins is getting married 3 weeks after us.

All of these are out of town weddings for Fi and I.  One wedding a month later would be wonderful!

In terms of worrying about your wedding compared to hers, don’t.  AND if you can’t help yourself and you think theirs will outshine yours because they had far more money to spend, be glad that yours is first and not following shortly after their bug budget blowout.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

It totally doesn’t matter how nice the invitations are or how fancy all the details get. All I notice is how happy the couple is while getting married and how much fun everyone is having afterwards. That usually means having everything be convenient (you’ve already got her on that one!), being in a good mood on your wedding day and serving alcohol!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Aww don’t worry about it. One of the worst weddings I’ve ever been to was a wedding where they easily had twice our budget, if not more. It’s how much $$$ you have that makes it great.

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