(Closed) The uncertainty of waiting…

• Mimi87
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: January 2016

Hello All!

After months of lurking, I’m reaching out to the other Bees to get some context. My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I are in our mid/late twenties, have been together for almost 3 years now, and have lived together for most of that time. We both finished law school within the past year, and are both gainfully employed making pretty decent money (although not quite enough to pay off all those student loans, haha.) Essentially, there aren’t any necessities missing at this point in our relationship that would make getting engaged seem unwise or impractical, yet alas my fellow Bees, I’m waiting waiting waiting!

I started bringing up the “engagement” issue about 8 months ago, and he was admittedly NOT very receptive about even talking about anything happening sometime soon! Since then, however, we have had many more conversations, and I’m starting to think that something may happen as early as the next 6 months. In fact, he’s even told me (maybe to shut me up, lol!) that he knows “when, where and exactly how’ he’s going to propose to me, and when talking about his parents, refers to me as their “soon to be daughter in law.”

So Bees, my dilemma is this: it feels like it could be soon, but EVERYTIME the subject comes up (and no, it’s not just me bringing it up over and over!) he gives me a different reason/thing that he’s waiting for, or wants to accomplish first. Recently, it was paying off all of his existing credit card debt, and fair enough. But after trying to help cut expenses and make his efforts to pay off balances easier, he now denies having ever said that.

On a positive note, we’re at the point of looking at rings together, on the same page with price, ect. This isn’t so much a “will he, won’t he” as much as a “how much longer??” post.

 I know getting engaged is a BIG deal, and for guys the pressure is a totally different animal. But has anyone else had a similar experience? Am I okay to patiently expect a proposal in the near future, or am I in for a much longer wait? Excited for Bee words of wisdom!

• This topic was modified 3 years, 6 months ago by  Mimi87.