- 1 month ago
They say there are five main stages to a relationship: https://www.mydomaine.com/stages-of-a-relationship
I met my Boyfriend or Best Friend almost 6 months ago and we’ve been exclusive for nearly four. It is a LDR Long story short, I supposed I’m struggling a bit as things seem to emerge from the honeymoon period.
Although we still talk for about an hour 4-5 days a week, I feel he used to be more communicative during the day. I hate reading into text messages, but I suppose to me it’s the thought that counts. It feels good to know someone is thinking of you before they start their day. I’ve reciprocated evenly in the past, but now (for the past half month or so) he doesn’t seem to be making an effort. He isn’t as flirty anymore either.
He has mentioned being stressed at work (he will hopefully be switching professions in the summer)
Essentially, I feel he’s pulling back and I’m not sure how to approach it. We’ll be together right after Christmas to the end of the first week of the new year.
Common advise seems to be to lean back when a man seems distant. These days I reach out first (but I don’t flood him with messages; I send one and wait for a response), but I wonder if I should lean back even more? I feel if I do, I might come off as uncaring, especially considering the distance.
Although he’s mentioned feeling stressed on the two occasions I point blank asked if anything was wrong, I can help but feel he might be reconsidering us.
I’m not good with ambiguities and I value direct communication, so a huge part of me wants to ask him how he feels about our relationship. I want to do this the next time we see each other in the flesh. Or… should I just carry on as I have been, giving space but being there when he wants to talk?
(I feel a bit better just writing this out, tbh!)