- 3 years ago
I come from a large, loud, angry family. They have never come to any events imoortant to me, even when I’ve offered to pay for them. My FI is from a very large but laid back family, and is totally not used to this. He and I want to have a small, intimate wedding ceremony and reception. That’s great because we can’t afford to have a ton of ppl there anyway.
His family being from oot will be okay with not being invited, mine will be pissed. I’m only inviting my godparents, immediate family, and grandma. The family not invited will expect to be there, and when not some will become mentally abusive.
Part of me is happy to not have them there as this will signify how I want the rest of my life. The other part is sad for the ones I don’t mind but can’t invite and I’m so scared for the fallout.
Eloping is not an option. My grandma can’t travel and we’re VERY close. An after party is not an option as we don’t have the money. So many of my family has wanted to do this for their weddings but have been too scared. Advice!!