(Closed) The "upgrade" comment

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
15136 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would just look at them and say “why would I need an upgrade?”.  That would proabably make them rethink exactly what they jsut implied.

Post # 3
770 posts
Busy bee

Yes, it’s rude in the context you’ve put it.

Theres also nothing wrong with wanting an upgrade one day. Peoples financial situations change all the time.

Post # 6
819 posts
Busy bee

I totally agree that it’s rude– I also have a half carat princess cut, and I absolutely adore it. I’ve gotten only one comment about “Oh, are you going to get something bigger someday?” and my response was to roll my eyes and tell this nosy person that my ring wasn’t going anywhere until it was pried off of my dead hand. Harsh perhaps, but whatever. It was none of her business and she got an honest answer, haha. If someone else tells you that you’ll get an upgrade or something similar, make it very clear that you’ll be doing no such thing and then change the subject.

Post # 7
698 posts
Busy bee

I would totally take offense to that comment. You just do you! I am sure your ringing is beautiful! 🙂

Post # 9
2141 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

here in the UK ive never heard of a ‘upgrade’ but people are no where near as ring obsessed as in america… I would tell someone where to stick their tactless, classless comment if they said that to me lol

Post # 10
3287 posts
Sugar bee

I gets lots of comments along the lines of “oh that is a wedding ring.” Whatever. Smaller stones look better on my hand and I am happy.  Congrats! Do you have any photos to share?

Post # 11
9575 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

A clerk at a jewelry store said that to me- “surely youll be looking to upgrade before the wedding? Want to try on some bigger stones??”  I know shes obviously trying to make a sale but it was still just rude. Why not try to sell me an anniversary band, or studs, or other wedding day jewelry or something!


Post # 13
3287 posts
Sugar bee

I have some larger rings but I always feel silly when I wear them. It is just not me. And it is just fine if larger stones are also not really “you.” That ring is lovely and it looks like it was made for your hand. 

Post # 14
1807 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’m guessing you’re in the US – because honestly, here in Canada, and Britain, you just don’t see big rings like that. 

After having a 0.01 carat ring for 25 years, I just upgraded to a 1.09 carat ring – and all I’ve gotten is ‘it’s so big! Why would you want something like that?’

then I have to explain that I’ve always wanted a larger diamond – but it was never some huge priority for me. With our 25th coming up I decided to look into maybe a 0.75 diamond – and it was my husband at the jewellers that loved the 1 ct diamond we were shown. I still would have gone smaller. 

I guess that doesn’t help with your original question much. Just know that in most parts of the world, a 1/2 carat would not be considered anything you’d need to upgrade 

Post # 15
299 posts
Helper bee

I think your ring is so pretty!! I myself like big gaudy rings lol but because that is my style not for any other reason.

Some people just assume that because someone has a smaller ring that its because thats all they could afford and it’s just rude and ridiculous. Wanting an upgrade in the future is fine but if what you have now is perfect for you and suits your style then put them in their place. Let them know you didn’t settle for your ring and it is in fact your dream ring!

Congrats on your engagement bee your ring is beautiful!  I always drool over princess rings!

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