(Closed) The urge to text an ex

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1691 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

If you know it would make your fiance uncomfortable, then I think you know it’s not the right thing to do.  Your time has passed with Sam, and you need to let it go.  No phone call or text that will hurt the man you’re about to marry will ever live up to what you think it will.  Forget him, make a new friend.

Post # 4
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4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I can understand this because I also had an ex that was a big part of my life and who I maintained a friendship with long after the relationship ended. However.. I knew that in order to truly move on with my life and get into a healthy space where I wasn’t holding on to old emotional baggage I needed to cut off contact with this ex. He got engaged after I was already married and my husband and I both felt the right thing to do was send a congratulations text, and he wrote back that it meant a lot to him. Aside from that, I haven’t spoken to him in over a year (he called and left a message after I got engaged and gchatted me maybe once about my wedding plans, of which I was vague, and that was it). I am still friends with him on facebook but I have him hidden so I don’t have to see updates. I didn’t unfriend him totally because I thought it would be rude and dramatic, but I never come across him on facebook. I guess what I’m saying is that it takes will power, but in the end it’s best to leave the past where it is and look toward the future. At least that’s been my experience. (Especially if contacting him would hurt your fiance or make him uncomfortable.)

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@FutureMrsWeston:  You find something else to distract you, you block methods of communication so you can’t do it spur of the moment.

I’ve been there. I know the feeling of just wanting to know… but it’s not worth it. If you get in touch, it opens a door that will be very difficult to close – and it will hurt your fiance (and you, in the long run).

Post # 6
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999 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

 

No, have never experienced that. Maybe you’re not over your ex or maybe you just need clsoure to something you felt was unfinished.

 

Post # 7
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501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

dont do it. you have a new life and new best friend in your fi. move on.

Post # 8
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691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

He didn’t choose you. He made an impression during an important and formative time in your life. Your FIANCE signed up for forever. Priorities. 

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