Post # 1
I never pictured myself wearing a veil on my wedding day. To be honest, there haven’t been very many that I’ve seen that I truly like to begin with. From the getgo I planned to find a funky floral headpiece and go with that but my mom’s kinda bummed with my choice. She’s always wanted me to wear a veil and I do think it means a lot to her.
I’ve yet to find said “funky floral headpiece” so as of right now my hair accessories are still up in the air. I’m willing to look at veils but I highly doubt that I’ll find something that I want to wear. I’m also a little hesitant to wear one since I’m getting married outside, in October overlooking a lake. There’s bound to be wind and I’d really prefer not to have it blowing all over the place.
What would you do? Would you find a veil that you can tolerate and wear it to make your mom happy or go with what you’ve always envisioned?
Post # 3
What I’d do, is wear the veil for the ceremony and take it off and wear what you want to for the reception.
Post # 4
If its important to you to make her happy, just get a simple one layered sheer one to your fingertips and wear it for your ceremony. They are so sheer it will feel like you have nothing on.
Post # 5
If a veil isn’t your style, don’t wear one just to please other people. As your mom, she should be able to accept that you two have different styles and tastes.
Post # 6
I too never saw myself as a veil wearing bride. My fiance is suprisingly traditional when it comes to weddings, and would be very upset if i didnt have one. So we came to a comprimise, i will wear a veil to the church and then take it off for the reception…mabey you could do the same, wear one for your ceremony then wear what you want for the reception or vice versa?
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
I definitely wouldn’t compromise if it’s not YOU.
That being said, if you find one that you quite like the look of, you can certainly just wear it for the ceremony and switch to your headpiece after that? 🙂
Post # 8
If its important to her wear one… If you are really opposed to it or you really dont feel like its your syle, try to include her in your shopping for your non veil headpiece, just so she feels like she is involved. Or maybe if she has a broach or something you like you could make it into a headpiece for your wedding so its a piece of her for you on your wedding day.
Post # 9
We have a family veil. I don’t love it ( for my dress….it’s a gorgeous, lace mantilla that doesn’t go with my dress) but I told my mother that I’d wear it for the ceremony to make my aunts happy. Come to find out that my aunts aren’t all that wrapped up in it, so I’m off the hook.
For 30 minutes, it didn’t seem like a big deal.
Post # 10
you seem like you’re really against wearing one, so don’t. Have you tried any on though? maybe you’ll surprise yourself and really like it:) Or just wear a simple one for the ceremony. But don’t do anything you don’t want to!
Post # 11
I agree with some PP about wearing a very simple veil for the ceremony, and taking it off for the reception. And I have seen plenty of awesome floral headpieces that look good both with and without a veil, so you can have the best of both worlds!
Post # 12
I feel the same way. My mom thinks I MUST wear one, but I really don’t like them. I’ll probably wear it for the ceremony and then take it off for the reception. OR I’m getting the skinniest one I can find. hahaha!
Post # 13
Think carefully about what YOU want. Remember, it’s your wedding and not your mum’s 🙂
Post # 14
I think, if you find one you like and are comfortable wearing then you could wear it for the ceremony and then change to said “funky floral headpiece” for the reception. If you can’t find one you can live with, you might just have to skip the veil and hope Mom understands. I understand wanting to make Mom happy though. Compromise and Family are tough in real like, huh? Especially when you have such a good heart!
Post # 15
on my first marriage all i wanted to do was wear a smart suit and go to the registry office to get married, but speaking to my mum, that changed ….a LOT. so i agreed to marry in a church for her sake…..BUT i will not wear white……
anyway , on my wedding day i did indeed wear white, and a veil, and in church. and although these wasn’t my original ideas, i did grow to like the idea, and i loved the dress and everything else, and i was happy because i made my mum happy without having to compromise/sacrifice a whole lot……a white dress instead of a smart suit……well the dress was gorgeous and mum cried with happiness.
i hear on WB all the time, brides saying to other brides…..”you only get one day”, and while this is very true, i myself made my mum happy, and with that i was happy too. i obviously wouldnt wear something pretty awful JUST to make my mum happy…..but there can be compromise….like PPs have said, maybe wear it for the ceremony and remove it for the reception….both happy.
i never once regretted the decisions i made for my wedding, but if i had ignored her wishes and gone with the smart suit, i think i would have regretted that, knowing that my mum was disappointed.
i am due to marry again next August, and my daughter is now giving me suggestions…….some i have taken on board, some i havent.
Post # 16
Only wear a veil if you find one that you really like. That sucker’s going to be in all your pictures–if you don’t like it, it’s going to bug you.