(Closed) The Waiting Game (Part II)

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I want to stay positive and say that perhaps he’s doing all of that to throw you off? If he wants it to be a total surprise, maybe he’s just toying with you?  If something doesn’t happen soon, sit him down and have an adult conversation with him.

Post # 5
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Maybe try to talk to him without specifically mentioning getting engaged. For example, find out what his short-term goals are and how he feels about where he is in life. Maybe he’s not ready? I just think you need to figure out what you are willing to put up with and how long you are willing to wait. You should look closely at your relationship and see if you are truly happy and are getting everything YOU want out of it. You deserve to be happy! I’m not sure how old he is but it seems to me 4.5 years is enough time to figure out if you two are meant to be together. If he’s young, he may need to mature a bit still? I was in the same situation with a guy before and even though he bought a ring, he was too afraid to give it to me for over 7 months after being together for 5 years. I walked away and it was the best thing I could have done because I met the most perfect man for me. I am not saying you have to do the same but you need to do what’s best for you. Hope this helps!

Post # 6
603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I know how you feel darling and I know it isn’t easy. Boyfriend or Best Friend and I will be coming up on our 5 yr anniv in April and I am getting sooo anxious! Just hang in there a little longer..implement Mr.Bees plan..and hopefully he will come around and maybe you can suggest ring shopping while your already out at a mall (I think that would be easier..ya know,since your already out ;).  If he said in April 2009 he wanted to get engaged in a year, then he technically still has 2-3 mos left until he is a liar 😉 

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