(Closed) The Waiting Game…Vent!

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Temecula, California

@racheljoy:  You do not come off as whiney, you come off as one of us Love. We know what it’s like to be ‘stuck’. You feel like you can’t really move forward just stay in the same place in your relationship.

You may have heard this advice before on the waiting board but it’s pretty sound advice though really really hard to follow. Preoccupy yourself with…. well yourself. Go out with the girls treat yourself to a treat. Just enjoy life, you can always come here when you feel like breaking down, your amoungest friends.

Post # 4
69 posts
Worker bee

@racheljoy:  I am in the exact same boat as you are. SO is amazing and has told me many times he wants to get married and he loves me but jneed any afford the ring I want right now. Which isn’t true because the ring I want is totally affordable. BUT he likes to spend money on other things (boat, atv, tools,) anything but me! And I’m not the type to be super demanding but at the same time, how can he find money for these things but says he can’t afford the ring for me? I am great with my money and he’s just not 🙁 so I totally understand. I told him we can have a two year engagement so there’s plenty of time for us to make it the wedding work financially. 

Im right here with you. Trying to keep myself distracted as best I can. Totally understand where you’re coming from 🙁

Post # 7
69 posts
Worker bee

@racheljoy:  we live together too… Hmm. Not ridiculous rant I totally get it! I hope your SO proposes soon too! 🙂

Post # 8
1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You don’t sound whiney. I would be hurt that he would talk about me becoming his wife, but then not putting any money towards it.

He honestly just sounds immature and he’s not ready yet. He doesn’t know how to prioritize. Obviously a video game should not be above building a relationship with you. I would focus on developing your interests and friendships, because it might be a while until he reaches the place that propels your relationship forward.

It may be after he finishes school and has a steady job. Typically, men don’t want to make such huge committments until they themselves feel financially secure.

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