Post # 1
Okay Bees, so I thought my official “waiting” would begin after the summer but now I find myself getting jittery for our ‘date night’ tonight! How do you deal?! Should I just enjoy the ride? I basically know the proposal is coming but he hasn’t met my dad yet so I logically know it can’t be soon anyways. But I get a random text asking me if tonight we should go on a date and how we should get dressed up!
Advice on how to deal with being irrationally excited?
Post # 3
All you can do is just try and be patient and wait. Get it out of your mind as much as you can and enjoy your relationship.
Post # 4
haha, i remember being where you were! every time my Fiance would suggest a date night out, i would get all fussy about where we were going/what we were doing, etc. or, every time my Fiance would ask pose a question like, “hey babe? i have a question…” i would totally read into it. it’s hard not to! my best advice is to just enjoy the time you spend together without expection. if you work yourself up too much that “this night could be the night” and it doesn’t happen, you’ll be dissapointed — and for no reason! regardless if he was to propose to you tonight or not, it’s special time you get to spend with your sweetie and that is what is important! plus, when he does finally pop the question, the suprise will be *that* much sweeter! good luck & congrats!
Post # 5
haha.. when we got it in our mind that we would get married I knew that is what I wanted but was not ready for a proposal. I think that only lasted about 2 months before ALL I could talk about was when we would get engaged. lol. He would tell me that every time I say something he was going to add 3 days to my wait. Then, somehow, it was still a total shock when he did it (earlier than i expected- his friend and I had a bet going). My advice, hang in there, you know it is coming, enjoy your relationship!! Don’t let the waiting eat up everything else you guys love to do together!!
Post # 6
I am in the same boat as you! I tried this one a few weeks ago to see if he would budge “So the work schedule for May/June will be posted next week. Are there any weekends I should take off?” SO was like Nope I don’t think so. In my head I was thinking WHAT!?!? Oh well I guess. I have actually been pretty calm these past couple days because I can’t make it come any faster. He will do it when he’s ready.
Post # 7
Ha, i’m in the exact same situation! going ring shopping for the first time tomorrow and i know he hasn’t spoken to my dad yet, so i’m still a few weeks (or more) away, and yet when he asked me if we had any plans for next weekend (a totally normal question), i couldn’t help but think “oh, do you want to keep it open?” lol.
Waiting can be nervewrecking, but so far, i actually find it kind of exciting! it actually makes me even a little more excited for our date nights and at the end of the night, i still had a great time because it was with him. and i try to just focus on that.
I know that wasn’t so helpful, but just wanted to tell you you’re not alone! 🙂
Post # 8
the waiting is torture! I feel like i’m trying to brainwash myself into NOT getting excited. It’s so much work!
A personal anecdote that helped for me: we were hanging out with couple friend of ours who IS engaged (and getting married in less than a month!) and i was alone in a room with the bride-to-be and i explained how hard it was to wait and how i read into everything and do my best to bite my tongue even though i so desparately want to talk about the E word–she totally related and told me how difficult it was for her, too. It made me more comfortable because hey, she’s 25 days away from being a mrs, and she went through the same thing as me! She also helped put it into perspcetive because she is totally stressed out with last minute details, and she told me to just enjoy our time together because once the wedding planning starts, it doesnt stop, and there can be lots of stresses involved. So, enjoy being at this great place in your relationship- you know youv’e found the one, you’re on the verge of the ultimate commitment and life-lasting vows, but you dont have the stress of planning (yet)!!
Post # 9
It is SO hard to not read into everything. There have been so many dates/special occasions where I was SURE that he was going to propose… nope haha. In fact, after we went out for my birthday (with no proposal!), I was a little bummed and he smiled and said, “You were expecting it tonight, weren’t you??” Grrr… 🙂
I don’t know what to tell you as far as how to deal, other than get excited that it’ll happen soon and revel in the excitment!!
Post # 10
I hear ya!! I find it so hard to not read into EVERYTHING sometimes. I know it can’t be anytime soon – we haven’t discussed a ring and my SO is the kind of guy who cant buy a pair of earrings for me without help… but still, anytime he does something romantic I cant help but wonder!
Last weekend we were in town and had just finished lunch when he suggested we go up to the observation deck of this big tower and so we did… and while up there he was all cuddly, so I did get a little suss but definately a false alarm!
I just try to enjoy the fun moments together!
Post # 11
I’m having moments of calm and moments of extreme antsy-ness. No happy medium here yet!