Post # 1
I need help. My bf and I have been playing the waiting game for what seems like FOREVER. We’ve finally worked through the last issue we wanted to before we made the engagement ‘official’, and so I know the proposal should be coming soon. We’re constantly talking about our future, owning a house and car, kids, etc. All of this, but still no ring!!
I’m going to his place for the weekend (we’re LD), and thoughts of an engagement are driving me crazy! He might propose this weekend – it would make sense. But I don’t want a proposal that “makes sense”. I worried that everywhere we go I’ll be wondering/anxious about if he’ll pop the question. And then it won’t be a suprise because I’ll be anticipating it! But if it doesn’t happen this weekend, I’m going to be so dissapointed, because I just feel like he won’t commit and the waiting is ruining the whole engagement experience for me. aaaahhhhh I’m going crazy 🙁
Any words of advice? I could really just use some encouragement.
Post # 3
BREATHE!!! Enjoy the moment. When you go to visit your SO this weekend, make it about you two, not the proposal. What can you do to make this upcoming weekend even better? Could you buy him a card, a gift, cook him dinner, buy him his favorite movie? Just because you love him. I do little things for my SO here and there and he loves it.
Post # 4
I was also long distance waiting with lots of talk and no ring, and it is hard because there are only short windows of time for him to do it and it is disappointing when you get there and KNOW it isn’t happening that weekend. I know it is hard, but set the farthest mental date you can handle in your head and think of that as when it will happen. That way you aren’t disappointed every weekend when it doesn’t happen. So if you want it to happen in the next 2 months, and it doesn’t this weekend, think to yourself, okay still have 7 weeks no big deal, not disappointed yet. Hopefully it does happen soon, but there are already enough LD issues and you don’t need that thrown in there.
My guy finally proposed and it was on his timeline and knew what he was doing. Would I prefer our timelines matched better? hell yeah. But it turned out to be better timing for us in the end his way. It is just hard to wait.
Post # 5
Okay, so I’m in a similar situation because I’m also expecting a proposal this weekend- yay! We are not long distance, but I’m type-A and he’s an over sharer, so I’ve learned a lot about the general plans. My advice is to just be excited that a proposal is on it’s way! Especially being long distance, it’s hard for him to pull off a total surprise proposal. Regardless of what he does, you are expecting to get engaged soon, and are expecting him to ask you! So unless he pops out of the bushes randomly someday, it will probably be hard to catch you off guard. I know how you feel that you want it to be magical and a surprise, because I am a little disappointed in myself for knowing so much about my proposal when I didn’t necessarily have to. But the thing is that you don’t know the details of how/where he’s going to ask, and what he’s going to say, and exactly what the ring is going to look like. So there will still be surprises and it will still be amazing. I don’t know if you read about aberry’s engagement, but she knew exactly when it was coming and knew about the ring, and said it was still amazing and a wonderful moment.
So don’t be disappointed no matter what happens. If he proposes this weekend, then you’re engaged!! yay! and if he waits a little longer, he’s probably preparing plans to sweep you off your feet. So good luck, enjoy your time with him, and check in with us later!!
Post # 6
aaawwww thanks ladies 🙂 That’s really perfect advice, just want I wanted/needed to hear! I love the idea of doing something for him, instead of waiting for the proposal. I do love him, and am excited to let him know it. Also, I think the idea of setting a ‘final’ date in the future is excellent… he already knows that it HAS to come sometime this year, so I think I’ll set ‘Dec 31’ as the day. Goodluck PinkBubbleGum – I’ll be thinking about you this weekend!!! Hopefully the suprise is absolutely lovely, and you don’t need to wait any longer!!!