(Closed) The Waiting List – 02/26/2018

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Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: St. petersburg, FL

Thank you for keeping this list up, 

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DaniGirl03 :!!! Also, I really hope I get taken off the list before the spring clean up…. my trip is in two weeks! I can’t believe you and I are both in the 50s now!

Flower Girl/RB: My SO’s nephew is 3 months old, so by the time we get married he would be like 1.5 years old. My second cousin’s newborn is roughly the same age, so I bet we’d have both of them be ring bearers, and have my second cousin’s older daughter (she’s like 6, so she’d be almost 8 I guess) be the flower girl.

I know my side (second cousin’s son and daughter) is a little distant lineage wise, but i’m very close to my second cousin. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Queens, NY

*sighs*

54. I imagine I’ll be into the 40s without the Spring Clean-up.

I don’t even want to think about where I’ll end up after it. Because I’m now very certain that if it happens, it won’t be before April 15, which is post-Spring Clean-up. That’s the day we leave on our cruise. We’ve got some specialty restaurant credits to use and he knows my favorite is the French restaurant on-board, which is also probably the fanciest restaurant on board and we love dressing up to go there. I could honestly see it happening whatever night we decide to do that, since we usually stroll along the promenade after, which takes us back to the part of the ship he considers the most romantic.

As for flower girls and ring bearers, I know who I’d use, probably, for each role. One of his best friends has a daughter who’ll be 7 in November, so if we are able to marry in 2019 she’d be 7/8, which I still feel is an ok age for a flower girl. If not her, we wouldn’t have one. For a ring bearer, as much as we could use her twin brothers, who’ll be 4 in October (yes, their family is nuts), he actually has a cousin whose son will be 3 in June and that’s probably who he’d want. It’s not something we’ve actually discussed yet, though, and he has already expressed interest in being properly and fully involved in planning because he wants it to be OUR day that we plan together.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Queens, NY

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DaniGirl03 :  Hopefully it’ll happen ASAP once he receives the ring. Like if he does a picnic on your property, it’d be amazing if literally the day after he gets it the weather is flawless and he decides to just DO IT. You deserve to not have to wait forever once the ring is paid off and in his possession.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I always said I didn’t want a flower girl and ring bearer, but now that I have two VERY girly nieces who are total hams and love to perform, I think I’d like them both to be flower girls! By the time I have a wedding they’ll be about 3 and 5, so at the very least the older one can toss petals and walk with her sister. Honestly it’s more for them than for me, they’re very sweet and love to be the center of attention (in a good way!) so I’d be happy to let them dress up and be part of the day, especially since both parents will hopefully be in the wedding party anyway.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Chula Vista Golf course

We’re abaolutely having both! Our son (3) will be our ring bearer and niece (3) will be our flower girl. I felt bad having her in our wedding without having her brother (our nephew, 6) in it, so he will escort his grandma (FMIL) and my other nephew (my sister’s son, 4) will escort my mom. It’s going to be adorable!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Queens, NY

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DaniGirl03 :  I’m hoping to be off the list then, too, otherwise I might just lose my mind. ESPECIALLY if he tries to feed me some line about how he couldn’t order a ring while focusing on the cruise. UMM NO. BYE. If buying a ring, which doesn’t take much effort, and planning a cruise, which he’s barely been involved in because he just lets me plan our trips until it’s time to panic about it, is too much? He can’t handle marriage, me being pregnant, and raising 1-2 kids for 18 years. I’ve told him what metal, I’ve provided a list of 14 ring settings and said literally any of those are wonderful and if any stands out as perfect to him THEN GREAT (I even sent them as sets to make wedding bands easier), he knows to get me a purple sapphire because I don’t like diamonds. He hopefully remembers my ring size because I gave that to him, as well. The website all this is on has all sorts of guides and tips to help choose a stone, too.

I don’t think he’ll cop out that badly, though, because I think he knows to try to make it a little bit special aaaand he probably wants me to shut up. To my credit, I’ve made it a week without even really looking at anything and my facebook ads are finally switching to other things again. An icky cold and a few dozen headaches will do that, I guess.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Queens, NY

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DaniGirl03 :  I don’t get it either. He’s making this out to be a way bigger deal than it needs to be. I know he loves me and that feeling is super mutual and he knows it. He’s even set his version of a timeline, which is that he doesn’t want to be a first time dad at 40, which means that if he wants to get married, spend at least a year married, and then start TTC he needs to get a move on because he’s about to turn 35. He really wants to have a kid, but he refuses to have one before marriage.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Queens, NY

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DaniGirl03 :  EXACTLY. He could realize he screwed up in not buying a ring on time, buy something for $10 at Target as a stand-in, and then figure it out later. I do still think it’s coming, despite what you know my crazy up-and-down path has been like since we’ve basically been in this the same amount of time so far. I like to think he has some sort of plan in place, even if it’s “at some point when we’re strolling on the promenade I will ask.”

MEANWHILE, how excited am I for my bff? She may be engaged around the same time (early April versus mid-to-late April) and AAAHHH her man is so great for her. I’m so excited, even if she’s feeling a bit blind-sided. She thought it might be by the end of 2018, but I know she was thinking second half of the year, possibly no earlier than October.

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