The Waiting List – 10/31/18

posted 1 month ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
218 posts
Helper bee

Wow- I can’t believe I’m at number 12 now! surprised
Congrats to all the engaged bees, there are some amazing rings up there.

I’m a bit tired of being a waiting bee, but I’m not upset or bitter about it. We recently had a big converstaion about it and he ended up contacting a jeweller the next day. So now the only thing in the way of us and a proposal is… the jeweller, ha!
He makes amazing rings and has high quality work but he is a poor communicator and is slow at responding to emails. My poor SO is non-confrontational and doesn’t want to ‘pressure’ the jeweller (lol) so it’s going to be a slow process.

Hopefully we’ll have a proposal by Christmas… *fingers crossed*

Post # 5
Member
218 posts
Helper bee

Hey I was 17 before the cleanup — welcome to my spot ;P haha

It really is hard though, I was becoming increasingly furstrated and angry before we finally sat down and properly talked it out. It’s just so hard being stuck in limbo and not having control over your circumstances.

I’m sorry for what you’re going through, my parents went through something very similar recently. And, although it’s over now and they’ve come out the other side ok it was incredibly hard for everyone.

 

And we’re perfectly happy being stuck with our current list keeper – even if she does miss the occational week haha x (that said, if you feel like you need a hand, or being the listkeeper becomes stressful or not fun anymore I’m sure someone won’t mind helping out/taking over for a while)

Post # 6
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24 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2019

This waiting is a killer! We have been together about 3 1/2 years now. We first went shopping in May and I was really hoping it would happen by the end of the summer (mostly because things get crazy once school starts with our kids – we have 2 each (4 total) and they are all into sports). He also spoke to my parents back in July. We went shopping again in September and we ordered the setting and a few potential diamonds to look at with the jeweler. When we went back at the beginning of October we ended up ordering a new setting because I really didn’t love the first one that came in. BUT the diamond that we picked is gorgeous. I love it so much and I am dying for him to put it on my finger!! When we left the jewelers that day he told me from then on I was out of the loop. J No more input-  but I asked how long I would need to keep this a secret like until Christmas?(I am not good at secrets at all) he said way before Christmas. So now I’m wondering how long “way before” Christmas is “Way Before” ! I’m so excited but if it doesn’t happen by Thanksgiving I’m gonna go crazy!!   So I guess the answer is I have no idea what’s standing in the way of my proposal! Probably him overthinking everything including how he is going to do it!

Post # 7
Member
43 posts
Newbee

Money is what has been standing in our way, for the most part. But the SO told me the other day that he has narrowed down the ring choices to two, and is pretty sure on one of them being it! He also mentioned it would happen by next summer, so the ball is rolling (albeit a bit slower than I want). It could always happen sooner though, so we’ll see 🙂 I’m okay with waiting until next summer, as long as it doesn’t go past that haha. He knows I want to be married by sometime in 2020, though, so I doubt he would take much longer than that. 

Post # 8
Member
22 posts
Newbee

Hi all! I am a new here and would like to be added to the list!

my SO and have talked about getting engaged since May and finally had a timeline. I want to be engaged for a year before getting married and he set a goal to be married by July 2020. This summer I was getting really anxious about getting engaged….I think partly because I was SO excited from looking at rings with him in July/August. Now that I’ve managed to get my excitement under control, I’ve realized I’m completely OK with him taking his time so he can catch me off guard. It took me a while to not anticipate when he would do it and be disappointed  

I think at this point the only reason we’re not engaged is whether he actually bought the ring (he keeps joking about whether he has or not to keep me on edge hm). And both of our professional lives are so busy right now!! I think he’s going to wait for when things mellow out on both of our ends so we can enjoy it…. maybe December? Only time will tell!

Post # 13
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31 posts
Newbee

Please add me to the list!

Post # 14
Member
221 posts
Helper bee

I’m definitely starting to get a bit tired of waiting – been waiting since late 2016 (only officially joined the waiting list earlier this year). I think I’m mostly a little bitter as this is the second time I’ve dated my SO – first time was during college, we went our separate ways for a few years to grow up before reconnecting, so we both know each other are The Ones – and while he was the one who was more vocal about marriage the first go-round, I feel like I’m the one nagging now. He knows I want to be engaged before my 30th birthday (next November) so he has a year to ask since he wants to be the one to do so. If it doesn’t happen within my timeline, he knows that I’ll happily marry him at the courthouse but won’t be on board with the bells-and-whistles wedding he wants to have, so that’s incentive as well. The little green-eyed monster definitely pops its’ head out each time a friend gets engaged (6 so far this year alone).

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