Post # 1
So I want to have my father walk me down the aisle… I feel like he deserves that special moment. Our relationship has really grown over the last 10 years or so. When I got engaged my mom told me that her and my dad “talked” about it and they would do it together, and what did I think? Well, you can’t really tell a mom “no” now can you. I am stumped on what to do. I know that it was moreso her telling my Dad rather than them discussing it and making a collaborative decision. My Dad knows how I feel about the situation but I still haven’t told my mom. I have thought about waiting till the rehearsal and saying the aisle won’t fit three wide… My Dad recently suggested having me walk in front and them behind me (not sure I like that one). Or I thought about having my mom be walked down by my brother (who is standing in the wedding on my side). I would like them both to say they “give permission” or give me away.
Hive… any thoughts or ideas? I could really use some ideas or suggestions.
Post # 3
You actually can say no to a mom. It’s one of the things that you have to learn how to do. I would tell her now that you have decided that it will be just Dad so that she has some time to get used to the idea.
Post # 4
I would not suggest telling her too soon before the wedding. I would go ahead and let her know about this so she can have some time to process her emotions. I actually wanted both my parents to walk me down the aisle. Both my parents have been together and raised me so I want them both to walk me down the aisle. Unfortunately, the aisle space is not big enough for 3 people to walk down plus I have a huge dress. My mom was actually the one to shoot the idea down because of this.
Post # 5
Yeah I wouldn’t wait til the rehearsal if I were you.
Post # 6
If you don’t want her walking you down the aisle, you need to tell her and soon. Don’t wait until the rehearsal dinner. I’m personally having both of my parents walk me down the aisle. If it was 100% up to me, I would walk alone, but I think that this moment is important to them both so I’m having them walk me. But really, it’s a decision you have to come to yourself. For me, it was worth the compromise because I don’t feel very strongly about it.
Post # 7
I wish I had my dad around to walk me down the aisle…its a father’s moment let him have it. Try and incorporate your mom in another way that won’t make her feel left out.