Post # 1
This is a bit of a weird situation. Not horribly upsetting, but definitely annoying. I pretty much assumed that wedding planning was over (I started early). Now I’m finding that the things that many people (ex: mom and other relatives) “understood” and even defended as my decisions months ago are now points of annoyance. For example, the guest list. No, sorry, I can’t invite my cousin’s-mom’s-aunt-in-law’s-mom, etc. That was totally understandable months ago, but NOW “oh you really should…”, “oh it would have been nice…”. It extends into other issues, too, where I’m NOW hearing about how “every wedding I’ve ever seen THIS happened…”
Have any of you experienced a complete 180 in the attitudes of relatives and other people? Feel free to share your stories (even if they are less about 180’s and are just about annoying comments)!
Post # 3
Yikes! Commenting to see what other bees have to say. Everyones been really cool, almost too cool, so i’m worried about this happening!
Post # 4
I think unless you elope, you’ll probably have to deal with it at some point… I started telling people ‘once we have made a decision we move on to the next one; so I’m not even thinking about that anymore.’
Post # 5
@AnonymousCupcake: This happened to us too…although it was more of a case of people not listening. So…it was extremely frustrating to have to explain things multiple times that had already been decided.
@emileekay: That’s a really good line.
OP: I’d say that!
Post # 6
Here’s what I’m doing: ignoring, saying no (repeatedly; with no explanation offered), and keeping our plans to ourselves until either asked or the contract is signed. We haven’t really dealt with this a whole lot, but what little there has been has been really annoying.
Post # 7
be lucky you only have to deal with it for a few weeks and not your entire engagement! Just ignore them, smile, move on and enjoy your day!
Post # 8
@MrsWBS: Hahah I guess I should have have phrased it differently. We have DEFINITELY dealt with it for the whole engagement (his family), but the people that WEREN’T giving us trouble (my family) are now suddenly starting it!
Post # 9
All I’ve gotten so far is pressure to invite folks who I just don’t know/like very well! my mom was also a little pushy at first wanting to do the flowers herself but I was able to talk her out of it!