(Closed) The wedding is for the couple. The reception is for the guests.

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@exoticmariee: I have to agree with you. I doubt we will do this. I’ve already told Fiance there is no way he is sticking his head up my dress to pull a garter off with his teeth in front of both of our families. Not my style – I’ll put a garter on for him later. I think the boquet toss for the kids (if you have them at your wedding) is cute. I went to a wedding where they did that instead and the little girl who caught it was absolutely beside herself.

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree to a certain extent I think the party/reception is for the bride and groom to celebrate their marriage with the people they care about but no I dont think its just for the guests… Its for everyone.

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

The whole thing, in my opinion, is for everyone.  Of course, we’re also gonna have a party atmosphere instead of a solomn occassion.  It just isn’t us to do serious when we can laugh and enough ourselves and our friends.

My Fiance and I don’t dance… well, he will if I look longingly and wistfully at the dance floor and it’s a slow dance, hehehehehe.  But, for the most part, we don’t dance.

BUT we’re having dancing because our friends and family (well, some) do dance.  

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Our is going to be about us, but with a focus on making our guest comfortable. Our ceremony and reception is a celebration of our union, being thrown by us, so we feel like it should reflect us. That being said, we do want our loved ones to have a BLAST, so we want to do everything we can to make them happy, but not at the expense of making the event about what everyone else but us wants. For us its pretty easy since our guests pretty much like what we like.

We are doing the garter/bouqet toss and first dance which will be traditional to my family but not to Fiance.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We feel the same way – that the reception is all about our guests.  We are having a small affair, with 60 people, and these are the most important people in our lives.  They are traveling to Maine to be with us for the weekend and we want them to feel special, pampered and loved!  Don’t get me wrong, we’re going to enjoy ourselves too but the day itself is naturally going to be focused enough on “us” and we really want to plan a big bash and some surprises for our guests.  We will be most happy if we see our guests enjoying themselves.  Like Christmas morning for parents. 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Our ceremony is going to be incredibly personal and all about us, but the reception is more of just a gathering of our friends and family to have a good time.  That being said we are still having the traditional cake, guest book table, and a small slide show.  But that is it.  No cake cutting, no bouquet/garter toss, no dollar dancing, etc.  We will have a short first dance, a dance with my Dad…and then it is everyone’s party.  We did choose the band based on our taste, but it is also most of our friends taste, and they have agreed to learn specific songs that I know my parents, FI’s parents will love to hear; and in their breaks we are going to throw on some older stuff for our grandparents to twirl around to.  Liquor choices were based on us (but again our friends and family concur), as were the simple food choices.  Our group is laid back, and just likes to have a good time…so that is totally what we are doing.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I mostly agree with that statement, because I probably would not spend so much money on a single day if it was just for our own benefit. We want our guests to celebrate with us and have a great time, and to us that means throwing a big party with plenty to eat and drink and music people will want to dance to. We have had to change a few of our original ideas to better fit the needs and wants of our family and friends. I don’t think there’s any problem with that. Our guests are spending their time and money to celebrate with us, so we are spending our time and money to throw a party they will enjoy.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@exoticmariee: bahaha. I guess the rolls were too hard at my bridal shower – people were joking they were going to throw them at the windows..

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ahh! Does this mean I should have dancing even though Fiance and I hate it? 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@exoticmariee: I actually said that line Tongue out

 

wow okay! it deleted my entireee post! ahh!! hold on..working on it..

okay so basicallyyy what I wrote was that in lieu of bouquet/garter we’re doing anniversary dance – in which all married couples are called to dance floor, the DJ slowly picks them off (i.e. “If you’re been married less than 5 years, please sit!” etc) and the longest-married couple remains. Then, we may or may not dance with them, they’ll give us some advice, take a photo, present the lady with my toss bouquet, etc 🙂

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

That brings up an interesting point though. If the reception is for the people who witnessed your wedding is it okay to turn away people who only attend the reception?  (not that I would do that)

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