Post # 1
Our wedding is shrinking! We invited 189 and only 116 said yes. Only 3 invitations are yet to respond. That’s a ~60% turnout!
I had complained earlier in the engagement process that I wanted a smaller wedding, but I meant the typical 20% cutbacks, not this. Now, Fiance and I are kind of offended that more of the people that we truly wanted to be there (not just the very distant relatives we don’t know) aren’t going to be spending the big day with us. Yeah, it will be cheaper. The FMIL will save around $1300 on the venue from our earlier estimates, but everything else has already been bought for a 150 person reception.
So, how would you brides feel if 40% of your guestlist didn’t feel your wedding was worth going to?
Post # 3
I’d be relieved! I’m getting married on Labor Day weekend and my family has to travel about 1200 miles to get there, so most of those attending will be his family. So I expect alot of declines. It’s gonna save us ALOT of money in the long run!
Post # 4
We had the same, invited 208, only 120 are coming. It was definately a sad thing for me. We didn’t invite people that we would have, because the guest list was so huge. With 208 & assuming 66% attend, we were talking about 150, which is where we wanted it. If I had known there are so many more people I would have invited..
Post # 5
I would be so happy hahah. I really want to cut the venue price down!!
Post # 6
We invited 260 and only had about 165 come. I was really bummed about a handful of close friends who weren’t able to come for good reasons (newborns and pregnancies and money woes), but I got over it. In the end, it worked out great — even though we were told our venue could handle 200 max (maybe 215) it would have been waaaay too crowded. 165 was the perfect number for our venue to feel full but comfortable.
Post # 7
Oh so soon-to-be Mrs., your last sentance just breaks my heart. Please don’t take the lack of invitation “yes” responses personal.
There are so very, very many reasons for people to not attend. REMEMBER…..it is truly about you and your fiance, and having a wonderful party/celebration with your famiy and friends!
Post # 8
Ditto almost exactlykorettak. We don’t too many people traveling but we’re getting married labor day weekend and there’s another wedding the night before ours. Our list is almost 300 people – I’m praying over 20% decline. LOL
Post # 9
we invited almost 300, had 120 rsvp yes, and only 75 showed up!!
Post # 10
I have not sent out my invitations yet so I cannot directly relate to the wayyou are feeling. I can imagine that it’s hard not to take this type of thing personally. I think you should keep in mind that most people probably want to come, but just can’t for one reason or another. I don’t think this is a personal snub against you and FI!
If we end up with 116 I will be happy! We are inviting 178 which is waaay more than I ever wanted to invute, but the guest list battles have been long and tough to negotiate.
Don’t let this get you down!
Post # 11
We sent out 130 and we are waiting for two RSVPS…but right now only 93 people are coming!
The only reason i am sad about is bc the original venue that I LOVED only fit 80 people and with 100 or so it would be way to squishy….ow i realize we could have done it! 🙁
Post # 12
I understand. We are still receiving RSVP’s, but it’s looking like we will have a 50% turn out. At first I was sad, but now I am okay with it. The economy is bad, it’s a bad time of year for a lot of our friends, and many of the guests live far away.
The more I think about it, the more touched I am that so many people are still willing to come despite these conditions. Just remember, the people that are coming REALLY want to be there to share in your and your husband’s joy.
@Bailyh: I completely feel your pain. The same thing happened to us.
Post # 13
We invited 105. Of those, 69 sent RSVPs indicating they would be there. Only 60 actually came.
A lot of it is random. It depends on things like how people are doing financially at the time, how many are involved in other events that conflict, even whether it is the middle of flu season. I was disappointed that more did not come, but thrilled at the ones who did.
Post # 14
@2dBride….9 people just randomly didnt show up? did you murder them later? :p
But seriously…no shows…rude…did they have an excuse?!
Post # 15
We’re still waiting for responses, but of the 91 sent (everyone got a +1), 35 have said Yes, 2 Maybe (maybe!), and 14 No. We are waiting on 42 responses. I was at first worried about inviting 91 since we wanted 64 people.. but now it is looking like we might end up with 55! Our venue has a minimum of 50, so I hope we at least have that many, yikes!
Post # 16
I am echo the happy brides! I am actually panicked all our guests will come. I want 150, but with the last minute invitees and people changing their RSVP I have 177 invites. Please, please, please let that 20% cancel!