(Closed) the wedding theif.. a bit long!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I totally understand your feelings. I would be crushed as well. However, I don’t think saying anything will do any good because whats done is done. Your wedding will still be unique and special even if she stole some ideas and colors from it. And I’m assuming aside from a few mutual friends no one else will be the wiser about this mishap. So as much as I understand your anger because I would be so upset! IMO there’s nothing you can do now.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Okay, I understand that you are upset; however, I don’t see a lot of similarity with your weddings. Her colors are pink and silver; yours are purple and silver. Her dress is bubbled on the bottom and yours is lacey. Also, the top of her dress is shirred and yours has what looks like lace. As for the song, they didn’t use it for their first dance and they may have had it picked out a long time ago. You can still use it. I am sure that the majority of your guests will not be the same guests. I understand that you have issues with her, but you don’t need to let her ruin your wedding. If you have some of the same guests, they probably won’t even remember what their entrance song was.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Do you guys have a lot of mutual guests?  If not, I wouldn’t worry about it.  I mean, she’s a total jerk for doing that, but you can’t let it taint your memories.  If you do have a lot of mutual guests, I’d probably pick another song, but you can’t do anything about the other stuff so I’d just try and get past it. 🙁

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

sorry that you’re upset… I don’t think they’re too similar though… I’m sure you’d like more difference, but what’s done is done and it’s not like you’ll have identical guest lists. let it roll of your shoulder!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

her wedding was pink and silver, yours is purple and silver – i dont see the problem here

she walked down the aisle to a song that you will use for your first dance, again i dont see what the problem is – i doubt guests will even remember/notice

she was a 2 dress bride, many brides are 

 

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Are all the same people from Mrs. S’s wedding going to be at your wedding? 

If not, I’m confused on why it would make any difference? 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would be really pissed , but she’s immature and this just all points to that.  There is nothing you can do.  I do think there are enough things that are different that you shouldn’t worry about it. Even if there is some overlap in guests, i’m sure everyone that knows the two of you brides, will figure out what happened.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would wait until after your wedding to say something.  It seems like she immature and petty and can cause more chaos for your wedding.  Same colors or not, your wedding will be different and unique in your own way!!  Don’t let her or anyone else ruin this day for you.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I will just say what I basically said elsewhere:  your wedding is your wedding.  It does not matter if 20 people or 200 people use the same basics, it should be about what you want your day to be.  This is not a competition.  Even some of the greatest ideas and pictures I have seen on this site remind me of weddings I have been to.  People have been getting married for so many years, there will be overlap.  That should have zero to do with what you want your day to be for you and your FH.  Make it about what you want, not trying to outdo others or be so original that you lose what makes it about you.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Imitation is the most sincere form of flattery. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I wouldn’t say anything to her about it… especially the floral shades…  I had a friend who got married in the fall.  She was supposed to have autumn bicolor roses that are ivory and mauve, but when I arrived at the wedding… all the roses were orange.  I caught the bouquet and discovered that the flowers turned the correct shade of ivory and mauve later.  The roses were too fresh and just had not had the chance to fully bloom!

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

First off OMG wow! I am soo sorry you have to go through this and I can COMPLETELY relate. I just vented about a very similar problem (3 family weddings…all 2 weeks apart mine being in the middle and my colors just got stolen (amogest other things)

But you know what I’ve learned (with help from other bees) that it will work out.

I mean first off….she’s obviously not someone who can apperciate and respect all that you have done for her and your wedding.

With the colors… I personally think that purple and silver are way more modern and will stand out more. The good thing is silver is usually seen as an accent color which means it won’t be associated with hers as much bc you will have purple. I know it doesn’t sound like it too different but trust me the difference will be huge visually.

As for the dress one huge suggestion…..rock that dress like its a runway.

As a model I have learned you can make anything look 100x better if you are confident in what you are wearing. It sounds too simple to be true but trust me it works! Also Your dress looks like you could rock it up with some jewelry or bright colored shoes bc its not over the top and gorgeously classic. Bam it up a bit.

As for the song….that sucks. I can relate….FH and I had our wedding song stolen for his cousin’s cake cutting song. Doesn’t sound like a big deal but from now on all FH thinks of when he hears that song is their cake cutting.

 

But I would focus on holding onto the confidence of your wedding bc lets be honest…it seems like she had no sense of confidence in her own to the point she had to steal yours. So obviously…your wedding is going to be the better one.

Chin up and rock your wedding girl!

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