Post # 1
I was so fascinated by the regional differences thread. I’m curious how common some of the traditions that were relatively foreign to me are amongst the bees and how out there I am for not signing up for a few that seem pretty universal…but maybe not. I was limited to 15 quetions…I wanted about 20! Thanks for taking the time to share.
Post # 3
@Melini: maybe you could write out the remaining questions you had so that people could still answer them?
I did the following: someone hosted a shower for me, my dad “gave me away”, I changed my name, we had a full open bar, there was a cocktail hour while we had pics, we did a bouquet/garter toss, we did first dance with parents, I wore ivory, there were assigned tables (not seats) and there was a plated meal!
Post # 4
I’m such a sucker for statistics and the regional thread was really interesting! Love this poll!
someone will host a shower for me
We will have a full open bar
Attendants will match colors but not dresses
We’ll do pics during cocktail hour
First dance with our parents
Post # 5
Most of the choices that I thought to include, but didn’t have space to do so were alternatives to what was posted…like “Will you have a buffet?” as an alternative to plated dinner.
So, maybe folks who didn’t think I asked the right question can chime in with with what they plan to do? Please!
Post # 6
Here are some of the things were doing that I feel are “different”
we’re doing a first look so we can enjoy the cocktail hour with our guests, we’ll have wine and beer (bar will be open from the time the people arrive for the ceremony to the time people leave… yes… people will be drinking while i say my vows), my maids are picking out whatever navy dress they want… i’m not sure if they’re going to match yet… it’s up to them, I’m not sure of the parent dances, we dont’ have a slideshow, but we’ll have a digital picture frame with a mini slideshow running at the guest book table, we’re doing a buffet.
Hope this helps.
Post # 8
Do you mean attendants will match each other rather than will not? I’d say the matching is more of a tradition and the not matching is a current trend? But maybe I’m understanding the poll wrong.
I’m wearing white and changing my name and someone is hosting a shower/bachelorette party for me (mainly because I live in a 1 bedroom apartment, lol). Not doing anything else though.
I wasn’t sure about checking the “Dad is giving me away” one. He’s walking me down the aisle, but that’s it, there’s not going to be any “who gives this woman” stuff. I’m not a goat, lol. No offense to anyone who includes that, it’s like the garter toss to me—just a bit strange and uncomfortable.
Post # 9
Re: attendant dress: I meant not…I’ll assume that if someone doesn’t vote for it the attendants do match or don’t exist.
The poll is crude, and everyone will interpret the oversimplified choices a little differently, but I still like getting a sense of what people are doing in general.
My dad is walking w/ me (and so is my mom), but I’m not going along w/ the giving away part, so I didn’t vote for it.
Post # 10
Yes, that’s how I felt about the giving away thing, too. My Dad will be my escort down the aisle but I’m not anyone’s to give away, so we wouldn’t say any of that stuff, so I didn’t vote for it.
Post # 11
i’m a little sad with the option for “father giving me away”
i would love to have ticked this but since my dad died 12 days before my wedding , my mum stepped in and gave me away at the last minute
perhaps the option should be that someone gave you away ( as first choice is mostly dad’s but some people dont have that option, but they arent breaking tradition on purpose!)
just a suggestion…
Post # 12
I’m doing a buffet… And I took the personal attendant question to mean a maid of honor?
Post # 13
@kala_way: good point – my dad didnt give me away he just walked me to my groom. There was not a line about who gives this woman either!
Post # 15
@baileysbride2be: When you see each other (often for “alone time” and photos) before the ceremony in your regalia.
@cyneswith: Personal attendants are something I’d never heard of before the weddingbee. They’re common in some places and different from BMs. As I understand it, they sort of follow you around and make sure your needs are met all day…like your nose needs powdered in the middle of pics or the brides was someone has to ask the DJ to turn down the volume. It’s supposed to be an honor to be asked to do this for your friend (again, as I understand it.)
Post # 16
@baileysbride2be: its when the bride and groom see each other before the ceremony so they can take pictures – the bride usually sneaks up behind the groom to surprise him and its all captured on camera!