- 9 years ago
Fellow Bees, please help…
We’ve been together for 5.5 years and got married last week.
2 months prior to our wedding we were fighting a lot…He started going out with friends more, being a bit more distant. We worked it out, fought a few more times, even had the , “omg are we doing the right thing” talk. I was at one point so upset that I wanted to cancel the wedding, but we talked and things got better. He reassured me he needs me and can’t see himself without me.
Then, a week before the wedding, he went out with work friends, didn’t come home (his mother’s home) for the night. Had another fight, but he apologized profusely, even cried and said he’d never do this again.
In all of this mentioned above, we had sex like 3 times. I was stressed, upset and so on. He kept going after me though, so it wasn’t that bad, as though our libidos were both gone.
So..we got married. The wedding night was a loss, b/c we both collapsed. The next night we went to a B & B and everything was amazing. Skip to 4 days later. He moved into my parents’ house (since that’s where we’ll be living for the next year or so). My parents are not intrusive and really work to make him feel at home. They truly stay out of our way. We have our own bedroom. And yet, every night, he’s just fallen asleep. No going after me in bed (or outside of it). Not even passionate kisses, NOTHING. Doing it in my bedroom was NEVER a problem before. What’s even odder is that the first day that he went to work, I suggested lunch together, and he said, I’d rather talk with my friends, tell them about our wedding. We did have lunch, but even then, he wanted to go back to work pretty quickly.
Tonight, our first Friday night as a married couple, he’s going out with his best bud.
What are your thoughts on this?? Because to me, there is something pretty wrong with this whole thing. A man should want to spend time with his wife a week he got married.