(Closed) The weight-loss and dress waiting game

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

you have a reason to stay focused so every time you want to go off track realize the reasons this is important to you. I don’t want to look at my pictures with regret so I plan on losing the weight now and easing off to maintain it. If you had a lot of weight to lose them you can constantly diet/exercise but based on the amount of weight you want to lose/habits/timeframe maybe dieting now and maintaining it and if need be dieting again closer would help you stay on track. i have a hard time staying on track as well but did a bikini competition in the past. You better believe I stayed on track when I knew i would be on stage being judged. sometimes buying the dress can be motivation. I moved in June and went dress shopping in July even though I gained 10 lbs moving. my boobs are a 4 but my waist was a 2- I chose the 2 and went against my sisters and the assistants advice. I am stubborn and can’t wait to be like HA! The 2 fits!.. Same thing I refuse to hear them say “told ya to get the 4”. I weigh myself but my goal is inches lost,body fat %, not jiggling more so than the number on the scale. I want to share someone’s elses post from another site that has always been helpful for me. 

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Post # 3
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

1. Why? The one-worded question where all of this began. Whenever you lose focus or motivation, always bring yourself back to the very first time you asked this. Whatever reason you have, is great enough for you to keep going. Don’t forget that.

2. You feel you’re setting yourself up for failure. You’re wrong. You’ve tried multiple diets which have had short term effects, but in the long run you’ve only ended up back at square one. This time is different, tell yourself that. Let your past mistakes be nothing but learning guidelines, everytime you try something different you’re finding out something new about yourself, don’t be put off from previous failure – welcome it then destroy it.

3. Stop focusing so much on the negatives. Bring out the positives and be proud of every achievement made, whether it be big or small the fact of the matter is everything you do affects your goal, so staying awake from the cheesecake, or dragging yourself to go for a run – it all pays off in the end.

4. There’s going to be times when you feel progress is going nowhere, that you’re eating foods you hate and exercising for long periods of time; and for what? I’m sure this question has ran through many peoples’ minds, whether its because they’re diet is off or they’re stuck at a plateau, it doesn’t matter – don’t give up! Just because your hitting a hard point doesn’t mean you can’t soar through it, sit back, evaluate, change. It might take someone 3 months to achieve they’re ideal body whilst it might take someone else 3 years. If it’s in your heart then it’s worth it.

5. Compare yourself against yourself, and no one else. You’re not working with their body, you’re working on yours, whilst it’s good to have an idea of how you want to look, don’t go competing with the fitness instructor at your gym. Compete against the person in the mirror because that’s what important.

6. Understand. This isn’t going to be easy, infact by far frustrating but believe in yourself and you will go far. Set goals that are realistic, not ridiculous. Patience is a virtue, and no matter how many days you wake up feeling sluggish I can bet if you drag your ass to go for a run you’ll feel a million times better and refreshed afterwards. This isn’t a quick fix, this is something you should adapt into as a lifestyle.

7. You’re not alone. You have a huge support group, online or at home, there are plenty of other people trying to achieve the same goals as you, going through the same problems and dealing with the same experiences. Talking to someone always helps, there’s a ton of useful information out there from a lot of well respected people. Don’t be afraid to ask.

8. Have fun. Look at what you’re doing and enjoy it, everytime you exercise you’re changing your body. If you’re bored of the treadmill jump off and go on the bike, rowing machine, anything. There’s endless ways to make working out fun, it doesn’t always have to be as grim as some people make out.

9. There’s going to be people who won’t support you, who’ll try to convince you to binge drink out on a friday night or share half a pizza with them and to stop being so ‘boring’, and yes, it’s hard to resist and have enough will power to say no, sometimes its a lonely road when you feel isolated in that manner, but that’s what seperates you from them. You should still have a social life and enjoy yourself, have treats here and there, but don’t feel forced into anything you don’t want to do.

10. Be proud of who you are and what you’re doing, of these steps you’re taking and sacrifices you’re making to become a healthier person. Not only should you be amazed by yourself, but you should remember the people you’re inspiring around you. You should think about how you’re going to feel once you’ve achieved your goal/look, and how others are going to look at you when you have. It takes a considerable amount of will power and determination to achieve something great, and to think about when you get to post your ‘before and after’ photo’s which in turn motivates and inspires others to push harder. If you set your mind to it, you CAN do it! Never give up

Post # 4
768 posts
Busy bee

I think what really works for me and prevents from eating unhealthy foods all the time, is the 80/20 rule. I eat healthy 80% of the time and indulge 20% of the time. I love pizza, sweets, chips but I also like to mantain my weight so doing 80/20 works great for me. 

Another thing that I do is to plan just one week in advance. So basically I cook my food for 5 days (lunch and dinner), eat a healthy breakfast, and try to go to the gym at least 4 times per week. It’s easier to plan on a weekly basis to me because if I said “I will go to the gym everyday and eat healthy everyday” sounds too daunting or difficult to stick to. 

Journal as much as you can, use MFP, and look for healthy alternatives when possible. 

You can do it 

Post # 5
95 posts
Worker bee

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Livia-C-to-be:  Hey I know you just recently commented on one of my posts about the similar subject to this so I thought I would comment on yours lol… I started this whole weight loss thing in February 2014… then I weighted about 225 pounds. I have always been bigger… even in high school I can’t ever remember weighing under 175 so I don’t even know what I would look like. Anyway… my fiance is oh I don’t know about 135 pounds… seriously there is like nothing to him he is just skin and bones… and I know that one can not help who they fall in love with but MAN do we look awkward sometimes… so instead of stressing myself out about how the photos were going to look or if I was going to look like a whale next to him (which is pretty much what everyone looks like) I decided to just freaking commit to something for the first time in my entire life…

So… I completely gave up carbs (which used to run my life) and eating terrible things that I used to eat before and long story short I have dropped down to about 180 currently. My goal in this whole thing was really only to make it to 175 but now that I am close to that and I see the difference in myself I can not even think about stopping. As far as sticking to it I think that the best motivator… is progress. The first few weeks and months were terrible and they are still so hard when there is temptation everywhere… but I mean I can sometimes borrow my sister’s clothes now… (and she’s the “skinny b*tch” of the family.) It feels pretty good.


And seriously I think when it comes to dresses… just pay on everything else… Lol it seems dumb and I have only tried on a few dresses so I am no expert but seriously… those… pricetags… are… enought. I would rather pay off the venue and the catering and all the other stuff before having to worry about a deposit on a dress… When you rationalize it like that it usually makes it easier to curb your desire to impulse buy.


And you can totally do this!! We both are looking at those last 30-35 pounds as the struggle but lets be honest… we got this. 


Stay strong! You can do it!!

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