(Closed) the whole story…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2842 posts
Sugar bee

@selena12312:  Ok. I’m a little confused about the point of the original post/question. How does it help to ask opinions if you leave out half the facts? If you choose to have a wedding venue that cannot even hold your entire family that is your choice. Also the decision to ask both parents of a 9 month old baby to be in the wedding was your choice. I cannot imagine being expected to hold a 9 month old baby, standing up, dressed up, presumably in heels, for an entire wedding ceremony. At any rate, as you’ve already pointed out, this is not the first issue with her or his family and still you asked her to be in the wedding, what did you expect?

Post # 5
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

if you want them there, allow the nanny to come. if you don’t, don’t allow the nanny to come. easy enough.

Post # 6
5995 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@selena12312:  “ I offered to reimburse her for her dress is she wants to drop out. None of it  was acceptable“.

Wait, are you saying she’s refusing to drop out of the bridal party? Because it seems to me that, from here, the best solution is one or both of them drop out of the wedding party and attend as regular guests.

Post # 7
10 posts

@bebero:  she explained quite clearly that she cannot have the nanny at the ceremony or reception.  not that she doesn’t want her there.   from the original post:


The mansion has very strict rules about guests and children because it is a historical landmark. We have a max occupancy of 60 people I have family I cant invite because of it. The nanny regardless of if she eats of not is an adult in the space counting toward occupancy. Think fire code not  me being cheap.  Children can only be in the rooms when watched by an adult who is a guest of the house, aka checked into a room.




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