Post # 1
I think I’m writing this more as a vent thread than anything else. I just spent 3 days dress shopping in my hometown and it’s so discouraging. I am a 14 right now and hope to go back down to a 12 by my wedding date. I went to Kleinfelds and some other popular stores in my area. The sample sizes for plus sized women were hideous! Not even close to the selection for the smaller sizes.
The sad part for me is I want to be different. I want to stand out.. (no offense to anyone with thtis) but I dont just want a lace fit and flare with beading. I’m a bit down and the shopping experience really made me feel dissapointed. I just really don’t want the same cookie cutter dress I see all the time. Maybe I’m being dramatic but nothing I tried on really made me feel amazing. I want something high end(ish) .. with great quality material… I guess it’s just too much to ask if you don’t wear a size 8. *sigh* Anyone else experience this?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery
MeandMyLouboutins: Sorry you are feeling so bummed right now! As a plus size bride, I knew I was going to have a hard time feeling beautiful in a dress and also finding one different enough that I would like. However, I didn’t have sizing issues. I wasn’t on a high end budget so DB was my bestfriend lol. I chose an Oleg Cassini ball-gown/a-line style. It was different enough for me and worked with my shape. You will find the right one and you will love it and look stunning! Good luck to you.
Post # 3
Have you seen the Julietta line by Mori Lee? Or the Curve Collection by Wtoo? Also don’t be afraid to look at samples that may not be your size but are what you want.
I work in a boutique and when I have a bride who can’t fit into a sample she wants to try I will often clip it to the front of another dress she can fit so she can at least see what it would look like on. I just did that with a bride who wanted to try on our Mori Lee 2682 but we only had it in a size 10. She had actually bought a plus size dress somewhere else but felt like she was settling just because it fit. She wanted more drama so we clipped the sample to her, showed her the picture on the model. We ordered it in a size 20 and she loved it.
Often times dress consultants have some tricks because believe me its not our choice to have such small smaples its often the owners or managers who order, or sometimes the designers do not even give us a choice.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Two words: Ian Stuart.
Find a higher end plus size only boutique and have some fun. I don’t know where you are living now (I assume “hometown” means that you don’t live in NYC anymore) but there’s a great store here in Maryland (Curvaceous Couture) that carries exactly what you are looking for.
Post # 5
I have no advice to give you, but keep looking. Be persistent. The right dress is out there waiting for you.
Post # 6
MeandMyLouboutins: Try Alfred Angelos, it is true to street size and at a 12-14, you won’t even be plus size.
Post # 7
MeandMyLouboutins: where are you that a 12/14 is plus size!? I’m a 12, 5’7″ tall and about 140lbs. Hardly “plus size”. What am I missing?
Post # 8
MeandMyLouboutins: I feel for you girl. Don’t get discouraged, you’ll find the right dress. Even if the sample you like isn’t in your size, that doesn’t mean it’s not an option for you.
Post # 9
llussier: Yea, I understand its the name of the game.. they tried to get me in some gown and did their tricks but the sad part was the higher end dresses were like a sample 8 so like a street size 4…
Post # 10
MeandMyLouboutins: What kind of dress do you want? Post some inspiration pics and maybe some people can do some google research for you. I love google shopping for people on here. So fun
Post # 11
lovekiss: I live in Canada so unfortunately there is no plus size higher end boutiqie.. I wouldve been there pronto!!! lol
I am thinking of taking the trip to NYC if I really feel desperate!
2good: thank you!
MrsBagel: Well it translates to a 16 – 18 dress size in bridal so..
I really appreciate the encouragement gals! I feel like my family wants be just to settle for something ordinary so its great to get support sometimes 🙂
Thank you all!
Post # 12
MeandMyLouboutins: Have you gone to Ritche Bridal (on Avenue Rd) or Sophies (Mississauga, Oakville, London)?
I bought a sample dress from Ritche. And its definitely not a street size 4!!!! They had dresses all the way up to 20 at the sample sale (some of them were not the greatest, but there were some lovely ones.) The smallest selection was the street size 10 – 14. We noticed there were way less dresses in that section than there were smaller and bigger than it (likely because we were there in the afternoon on day 2 and they’d been sold already.)
I went with Alfred Angelo and I agree with the PP, its true to street size or only one size off (which likely really depends on the dress and the person.) I definitely do not have a cookie cutter fit and flare beaded dress (which, ironically is what I thought I wanted until I got trying them on!)
I don’t know all the lines they carry. I know both stores carry Maggie Sotero, Provinisonas, Alfred Angelo, and I’m sure a ton more, those were the lines I happened to try on. I’d call them and see what kind of sample sizes they have on hand.
(I didn’t make it to Sophies, I found my dress 2 weeks before that appointment at the Ritche sample sale we went to on a whim.)
Do you have any dresses you really want to try on?
Post # 13
MeandMyLouboutins: I’m a 16/18 in dresses and all the samples I tried on were 10/12. I had a horrible experience, too. I was so embarrassed because none of the samples would zip, and I felt like my fat back was completely hanging out the entire time. My consultant was super, super rude and made a few comments about my size. I ended up purchasing a dress, one because it was too gorgeous to pass up, and two because I never wanted to go shopping again. I love my body. I plan on losing some weight for the wedding for sure (mostly because I ordered my dress a size down), but I love being kind of chunky and curvy. I have huge boobs, a big butt, thick thighs–eventually I just had to learn to love that body I was in because it wasn’t going away. But I will echo your sentiments. If you aren’t a size ten and below, dress shopping is not always fun.
Post # 14
sostobe: I went to Sophie’s.. really wasn’t up to what I was looking for.. the sales lady was semi pushy and kept reminding me of how close my wedding is … *kinda annoying* — she basically put down what I told her I was looking for which was a bummer…
i go back to Montreal on Tuesday so I may not make it to Ritche but overall very sad that TI didnt find anything here.
Post # 15
MrsMeowton: it’s a shame.. if I had the funds I would open up a store for larger sizes.. it really is a shame in 2014 there is such disparity in whats offered to bigger and smaller sizes