Post # 1
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Helper bee
So after the sh*t week I had last week, (no idea how to link to my previous thread, sorry) I get back to work today and one of my bosses proudly announces that he’s just got engaged to his girlfriend of 5 months, WTF!!
And if that wasn’t enough my other boss wants my advice on how to propose to his girlfriend and how to go about choosing a ring for her.
So it seems everyone else around me is getting their happy ending and I’m stuck im limbo land, very unhappy bee today 
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
@GIJen: Oh NO!!! That sucks, a lot AND it’s Monday…but you have the chance to put some excellent engagement karma out into the universe and help save one lady from engagement hell….I know it’s not an easy thing to get enthused about, but if you tell yourself that if it was your soon to be Fiance, you’d want someone to help him out…maybe that’s the good energy you need today!
Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Big HUGS, just think, soon it will be your turn and then you will be able to go around with that glow, discussing all the details of how it happened etc 🙂 It is worth the wait as hard as the waiting is!
Post # 5
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Helper bee
@Jacqui90: I wish my time was coming but last week my SO took me ring shopping then decided to tell me after looking in jewellers that he wasn’t willing to buy a ring and didn’t want to get married, so I guess technically I’m no longer waiting
Post # 6
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Helper bee
@Nona99: Thanks Nona99, you always seem to see the positive in a situation, thats a refreshing outlook just now
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
@GIJen: I would tell my boss that I would help him out for a bottle of champagne and some cupcakes…might as well profit from the whole thing….any By The Way, just read about your SO’s decision to not get married….I would follow that with a decision to shrink all of his underwear in the laundry….
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
@GIJen: Oh no! Your SO took you jewellry shopping then realised he didn’t want to get married after all!?!? I’m so sorry to hear that.. I’d be absolutely gutted! *hugs*
Try to talk to him to find out the reason (trauma from his own parents’ divorce, financial, age..) or maybe he’s just not the One.. in which case you may have to move on I’m afraid 🙁
Post # 10
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Honey bee
Very sorry to hear about his words regarding not wanting to get married. I agree with other gals saying you need to seriously figure out how serious he was about his comments. If you two arent on the same page, let him know you wont be wasting anymore time.
Post # 11
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Helper bee
@GIJen What was this conversation like where he decided he didn’t want to get married after looking at rings?
Kind of cruel, but I definitely know some guys that would use a line like that to throw you off so they could surprise you.
Do you think that’s a possibility or definitely meant to break your heart?
Post # 12
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Helper bee
Wow…Im so sorry to hear. Why doesnt your SO want to get married? Isnt that the goal of a relationship?
I can imagine how you fely about your bosses. That should inspire you though! I just told someone that its likely if people star getting engaged around you, then you might bebnexy. Your guy may just be trying to surprise you.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
Just going by your previous posts- are you military as well? If you are then you should know better than anyone that people in our job tend to get engaged and married far to quickly and for all the wrong reasons- that’s nothing to be jealous of!
Post # 14
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Helper bee
Thank you for all your comments, things have got a lot better now. I think the not wanting to get married conversation wasn’t said either in order to suprise or hurt me, I think it was more a case of him opening up to his insecurities about marriage.
@Darcy212, yes I am military as is my OH, and I’ve seen first hand the car crash that military marriages can be. I’m not jealous of my boss for getting enagaged after 5 months per se, more a case of random jealousy over anyone getting engaged apart from me lol.
The happy news is we are working through this and discussing our options, we will definitely be together married or not we just need to both be honest with each other and maybe compromise and isn’t that what making a relationship work is all about 🙂