Post # 1
I sent out invitations a week ago and last night I was going through some paperwork and I ran across my fi’s cousins’s wedding invitation from last summer. All of the sudden I realized that I had written down the new wife’s name wrong on our wedding invitation. I don’t have an email address or phone number for them. I’m thinking I should write a note of apology and letting them know I made a mistake? WWYD?
Post # 3
If you cannot get their phone number, then a nice card would do. Somehow let it show that you recognize the error.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2020 - Oakland Manor
I think it depends on how wrong we’re talking here. I wrote a last name as Rickrhode instead of Rickrode, but I assumed it wasn’t a huge deal. My full name is Christiana, and sometimes I get things addressed to Christina, even from friends, even on my bridal shower cake. I’ve stopped caring that much about it.
However, if her name is Sally and you addressed it to Sandra, that would be awkward, or if she kept her maiden name and you addresed her under her husband’s name, then I might apologize and let her know you’re sorry for the simple oversight.
Post # 5
It was a Sally/Sandra situation. Two similar sounding, but completely different names. I was going from memory instead of double checking.
Post # 6
i think sending a little note in a card would be a nice gesture… but i wouldn’t beat yourself up over it either.
Post # 7
I would send a small note, but like krissybee said, don’t beat yourself up over it. I would hope that your family would recognize how many invitations you are sending, and how easy it is to make a mistake.
Post # 8
Send a note like the other posters said. Most likely, your cousin and his wife will get a laugh out of it.
Post # 9
Blame the calligrapher! 🙂
Post # 10
I like jhphi’s idea! A card might be nice or tracking down a phone number for her.
But seriously, if they just recently were married, I’m sure she can still remember the million things that are involved with the planning. I doubt she will hold a grudge for something like that. Just make sure to get it right from now on!!
Post # 11
Ha. I would say the calligrapher made an error too! Lol. Sorry for your mistake. Well, it shouldn’t hurt anything. When you send thank you cards, put her real name!
You could just have someone close to them mention it for you if it bothers you.
I also have a name that my mom chose to spell completely different from the common spelling … so Im at the point where I don’t correct everyone, but now everyone seems to know. I don’t know how, but we get invites/cards all the time and the spelling for my first and last name- two very hard spellings, is always correct. I’m like, how did they know that? Lol.
Post # 12
I get invites that have my name misspelled ‘Gabriella’ instead of ‘Gabrielle’ or my last name miswritten. This actually bothers me MORE than if someone put ‘Abigail’ or ‘Danielle’ because its like, they knew the name but didn’t even bother to check if it was right spelling. If I got something that was a completely different name, I’d probably just have a good laugh about it.
Send her a quick note asap with a little humor in it like "Dear Sally (or Sandra as I apparantly like to call you). My deepest apologies for my flakiness when I sent my wedding invitations. Somehow I decided to rename you, but I apologize for the wrong name. If it makes you feel better, I also *make up or tell some other flighty story here*. Nonetheless, We hope you can make it to the wedding! With love, aja0829"
Post # 13
As a new wife, I think she’d be more than understanding at the mistake. It would be gracious for you to write her a note – to tell her you realized the goof and apologize for it. I think it would be enduring to receive a note like that and shows a lot of class.