Post # 17
I didn’t have a “theme” either. How about “wedding.” I did have colors in mind that I wanted my Maid/Matron of Honor and Flower Girl to wear. DH picked what he wanted to wear and I coordinated vests for the Bridesmaid or Best Man & RB and selected ties for the fathers and ushers. Beyond that: formal, boring, plain invitations with a spike of color to match the Maid/Matron of Honor dress and flowers to coordinate.
Post # 18
I actually found it funny when people asked me what my theme was… my response was: love and marriage 😉 (with a sarcastic tone, of course).
If you aren’t a theme-y planner – don’t force yourself to be one!
Post # 19
We don’t have a theme either…we just have colors. Ours are black and crimson with a deep purple accent. Other than that we have incorporated bits of our personalities but no theme…and I can’t wait!! But I get where you’re coming from and sometimes think I missed something but with only a week to go, its too late now lol!
Post # 20
Love it! 🙂
When I began planning my wedding in summer 2008, I had no IDEA that anyone actually had themes. By the time I finally met the right man and prepared to walk down the aisle, almost all of my friends had been married for 15-20 years or more. I had only been to a few of weddings in the 21st century, and all of those involved brides over age 35, and none of them had a theme for her wedding.
I only knew that I wanted to have a formal, beautiful, elegant, evening wedding that reflected my tastes in colors, flowers, invitations, type of venue, etc, and my FI’s preferences regarding the ceremony, food, music, and other issues on which he desired to have input.
People raved and raved about our wedding, so I don’t think anyone missed us not having a theme.
Wow. A buffet with foods that only start with the couple’s initials? That’s interesting! I’ve actually never heard of that. Was the food good, or did you find the menu to be a bit disappointing?
Post # 21
I don’t know anyone irl who had a theme. I think you’ll be ok.
Post # 22
Haha, I think this is my favorite post I’ve ever seen on the Bee.
Post # 24
You know, I can’t even remember if it was good or not, Mr. 99 and I were so blown away by the fact that someone actually planned a menu around their initials that it literally ruined it for me right there….I support everyone in following their bliss, it’s the only way to live…but sometimes the wedding industry gets a hold of women and literally creates monsters out of them, that was the case at this wedding and all I sincerely recall from the night was dancing with Mr. 99 and he was singing in my ear softly and I saw the bride standing in the middle of the dance floor, hauling her ill fitting dress up for the millionth time, she had such an unhappy look on her face, and it hit me, I hadn’t seen her with the groom since they walked down the aisle….and I thought to myself, “That poor girl, I don’t think this is what she wanted at all.” and that made me really sad for her.
I think themes are a helpful tool for couples in a descriptive sense, as a communication tool it can be VERY effective to use one….but like anything in this life, moderation is key, and I feel sometimes people can get so carried away with it….more isn’t always better, sometimes it’s just more.
Post # 25
We’re not having a theme beyond ‘having fun’. I want to make sure my guests are enjoying themselves, and to be honest if they’re entertained they won’t notice any kind of theme (or notice it’s not there).
Post # 26
My fiance and I are also not having a “theme”, its funny many people have asked me what our theme was going to be and I said we don’t have one, and the look of shock on their faces was very amusing. Our theme I suppose is our colors, black and plum with hints of silver we are having a winter wedding in Jan. 2013, with a splash of our personalities added throughout the evening. I think if I tried to follow a theme it would have gotten WAY out of hand and very expensive. And I would have felt forced to stick to certain decor, which I would hate to do. If I like somthing, and its tasteful and elegant I want to be able to use it at my wedding, not say; oh darn there aren’t any butterflies on it.
Post # 27
Glad to see there are so many other brides without themes! I like the direction we are headed in & am thrilled to see that there are many other brides out there that haven’t given into the “hallmark” appeal of a wedding!
Post # 28
Like some of the others, ours is based mostly on the time of yr, and our colours, my dress is going to be purple… so I added black white and silver, kind of wintery, but thats about as much of a theme as we get, and trust me, it’s more than enough to keep me busy for the next 5 months…
Post # 29
I realised the other day we didn’t seem to have a theme either so I decided to name our own theme “the story of us” as the whole day just shows us. It doesn’t matter as long as the day is how you imagined it to be and makes you happy I say ;D
Post # 30
The theme should be revolved around you and your soon to be hubby and the life you’ll now be sharing together. The best thing you could do as far as a theme or feel for the wedding would be to select a color scheme and implement it throughout, and put your own personal touches on the whole day.
The most fun, enjoyable weddings are ones where the bride and groom are laughing, smiling, enjoying themselves and are in love.
Post # 31
We also had a “feel” that we aimed for, not a theme. Ours was a general “vintagey/DIY/pretty idea” – not too specific, but I think it turned out a lovely wedding 🙂
I like themes too, but they were not for us. And they certainly aren’t required! No worries OP 🙂