Post # 1
I just read a post about a theme wedding and got curious as the general opinion about them. What do all the Bees think about weddings that have a definite theme, like fairy wedding or old hollywood, not just a cohesive style or colour scheme?
It’s definitely not my cup of tea as I think weddings are enough on their own. I do have a colour scheme for mine though, (ivory and pale green). What do you all thing?
Post # 3
I think they are in poor taste. Sorry, but I do. Miss Manners agrees and says that themes are suitable for children’s parties and that the only theme appropriate for a wedding is “marriage.”
There’s nothing wrong with a color scheme in my mind, whether with flowers or linens or dress. However, it’s wrong IMO to demand that the mothers wear a particular color or dress. They are not bridesmaids or in the wedding party and are supposed to wear what they like. I know that’s a little off topic, though.
Post # 4
Personally, I am not a fan but I have seen some very themed weddings that were beautifully done. We just had a color scheme and things we liked. It all came together beautifully in the end. To each her own though.
Post # 5
Personally, I am not a theme-wedding fan. I don’t like matchy-matchy colours, either. The theme of my wedding is “wedding.”
BUT for others, if that is what you want, I think it’s a fun way to inject your personality into your wedding. I certainly don’t look down on people who elect to go this route.
Post # 6
I did “vaguely” themed off Phantom of the Opera — mostly in the decor, not much else. I don’t think most people noticed. Unless you have a major unifying theme throughout the entire wedding, I think most guests won’t be able to tell and it’s no big deal. I’d avoid overly themed though.
Post # 7
I love theme parties but NOT themed weddings:( but I suppose I’ve never been to a great themed wedding they usually seem like they are trying too hard!
Post # 8
I have a overall “feel” as opposed to a theme. I’m trying to give off a rustic feel that is chic and simple… all nutural colors except I have pops or bright red, and pear green (such as old coke bottles and fresh pears).. old antique dressers used for favor and cake tables.. lots of mason jars with candels in them, chalk boards, burlap, jute.. ripe green pears on the table.. big old aluminum trofts filled with ice and cold coke-a-cola bottles for drinking.. Its in an old vineyard, outside…
Would you call that a theme or just a feel?
Post # 9
I like themed weddings (I am planning one of my own), but I think a theme needs to do two things.
1. Be second to the actual ceremony and celebration of marriage.
2. Have importance and significance to the couple.
I went to a ‘themed’ wedding once that was ‘Carnival’ themed. Neither the Bride nor Groom had ever been to a Carnival. It seemed like they chose it exclusively so they could use Red and Yellow as their colors. Also, they had a clown. *shudder*
Post # 10
I like them, but am not doing one myself (though Miss Manners would probably still throw me into etiquette hell for having a destination wedding). I feel like weddings are a happy occasion, so the bride and groom should decorate however makes them happy.
Post # 11
@gorusticorgohome: I think that’s a theme.
Post # 12
I think they seem cool– I haven’t attended many of them. Mine is 1940s vintage, which is pretty safe I guess… but I always thought it would be cool to go to a medieval style wedding– or some kind of wedding which used really nice little details which gave it the feel of a different era or whatever 🙂
Post # 13
I’m really not a fan of themes – as others have said, I think they belong in children’s birthday parties, rather than weddings. But I am particularly against them if the theme is just something that’s trendy, rather than something genuinely special to the couple. So I hate all the barn weddings for people that have never set foot on a farm, antique decor for the couple that have nothing to do with anything antique…
Sure, use books or musical instruments in your decorations if you and your partner have a love of reading or music. Heck, even use Pokemon if you bonded over the old GameBoy games! But I feel that a theme that doesn’t relate to the couple just feels forced and contrived – like they’re trying to do a Pinterest wedding, rather than celebrate that they are two individuals getting married.
Post # 14
I’m ok with themes but I’m not doing one myself. For my wedding, I want to focus more on the feel and atmosphere than sticking to an overall theme, but that’s just me. Ultimately, a wedding is supposed to be a reflection of the bride and groom. If that reflection involves picking a theme, then so be it. I think the natural problem with themes is that people tend to focus on that more than the couple getting married, but I’ve seen some themed weddings pulled off very nicely.
Post # 15
I’m not into themes. We’ve got colours picked and I love 50’s dresses so I am going to wear that style.
Post # 16
I would never do one myself, but I think it could be fun to attend a themed wedding.