- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
At the risk of Too Much Information, has anyone ever seen a sex therapist?
My fiance and I are having issues in the bedroom. We used to enjoy sex but now we can barely complete it.
I’m sure it is emotional and not a physical issue since it started at a specific point.
We’re in LDR and before we got engaged once went several months without seeing each other and things weren’t going that well. I found out (via FB snooping) that he took another girl out on a few dates (she didn’t know he was in a relationship). Of course I was livid and to try to hurt him back I said every horrible thing a woman can say to a man- too small, can’t please a woman, etc.
I regret saying those things now but I really didn’t think we’d get back together and I was just seeing red at that point.
Fast forward, we worked through it and got engaged several months later. Since that point we haven’t had a normal sex life. He can’t keep it going for more than a few min if that. I should mention that giving him oral sex is not an issue, he can normally finish so again I don’t think it’s anything physical or medical.
We love each other and worked through our other problemsm but this is persistant and neither of us are happy in this area. I’m thinking a therapist is our only option. Does anyone have any experience?