Post # 1
alright military ladies, I know we are farily well off as far as the military goes.
My DH is in aviation, so luckily the longest deployment we have ever had to deal with is 4 months, which is nothing compared to what a lot of my navy-wife friends have to deal with. But I feel like we have upset the deployment gods lately or something. DH is guarenteed 2 years home with me with no deployments at all to finish his degree starting at the end of this April and I coudln’t be happier. However, prior to applying for temp sep he had no deployments on the calendar and was just doing regular day trip type things, but now it seems like his COs are putting him on every plane out of here every chance they get! He is leaving Sunday and won’t be back until he is officially free at the end of April. ugh.
My real question is, have any of you heard of commands punishing guys for going on temp sep or trying to get out? I know they can send him wherever they want to but it seems a little excessive to go from 0 days out to EVERY day for the next 2 months. Am I over reacting ?
Post # 3
Oh man, I don’t have any advice or input I’m afraid (I’m currently an Army wife and we have just begun our first deployment) but I wanted to send some encouragement your way!! I’m afraid I will never be able to understand the military and the reasoning behind the things they require their soldiers to do…try to hang in there the best you can (always looking forward to April!). 🙂
Post # 4
I’m sorry, that really sucks. It sounds like maybe they’re just trying to give him more experience? I can’t imagine it’s punishment but maybe some end of tour hazing of sorts? I don’t know if there’s anything that can be done, or if that’s typical, but I’d be pissed too. I don’t blame you! What is your husband’s take on it?
I know April sounds like a long way away, but the next couple months will go by so quickly then he’s home for 2 years! That’s really amazing and invaluable time.
I hope this goes by quickly for you!
Post # 5
I’m in the military myself and I highly doubt they are punishing him from what you wrote. To me, it seems like they are just using an “asset” so to speak while they have it. I understand that it seems unfair to go from 0 to 2 months, but military members are repeatedly briefed that they can be sent out at any time, regardless of their current schedule. I guess I see it as they have spent money training him and they have 2 months to use him before they can’t for 2 years so they want to use his skill set while they have the ability to do so. I apologize if this comes across as harsh.
Post # 6
Don’t worry, it didn’t sound harsh at all, I understand, it is just frusterating that there was so little warning. It is at least comforting to know that April is comming soon.
I am with wbninja, I will never be able to understand what the military is trying to do sometimes. Its all just a one bit pile of confusion for me.
Post # 7
DH and I both Navy aviation commands as well. Well I no longer am but he is. Anywho…I know in our community its crazy changing time, as much can be said for the Navy as a whole with everything thats been going on and what not. (Downsizing) With my personal exp when i was in and as well as with just DH now I also doubt it would be punishement. Like already stated, probably just using an “asset” while they have it. The command/s that DH and I are/were in are also typically 2-4 mos out at a time but changed OFTEN, and many times either one of us would be put on a new rotation to leave earlier.
Best of luck!