(Closed) There is life after divorce (very long)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Take care of yourself and heal your wounds. Things will get better!  

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

So glad you found happiness! My mom was an advocate for domestic violence when I was a teenager; she would always tell me these stories but most of all I remember her telling me the emotions women go through and why they don’t leave their SO. It takes a really strong person to pull yourself out of a situation like that and an even stronger person to move on and love again.

 

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Wow this was very sad to read. I’m sorry for all that you went through but I’m glad there is a happy ending to all that insanity. Just understand that you do not need a man to validate your worth and your importance. It is a bonus that you are on track to married again but make sure you take a step back and recognize that you are a stronger person bc of what you went through And you should always love yourself more than anyone else. Best wishes to you Bee.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Very good cautionary tale. Be well.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

One thing that strikes me here is that bipolar disorder can actually occur from your teens onwards, it doesn’t just ‘happen’ when you turn 21. More often than not it won’t be formally diagnosed until someone is no longer a teenager though. I also feel that assuming the ‘bipolar disorder’ is the reason for his violence and abuse perpetuates the stigma that all people with psychiatric illness are violent and dangerous. I can tell you with certainty that we’re not. Just wanted to clear that up.

 

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

His Doctor or Psychiatrist/Psychologist? There’s a big difference there. Gp’s can’t diagnose Bridal Party.

It IS a chemical imbalance, and it can rear it’s head in times of stress and/or other triggers. Mine started at 13.

If your Ex H is Bipolar, I sincerely hope he got the professional help he needs/needed.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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futuremrsjisa:  Thank you for this. I am a lot older than you so dealing with my potentially bipolar husband is a lot scarier as i have endometriosis and my chances of having children are running out. He has only been this way for a month now afte r4 years of being exactly what you are saying baout your new bf. Held me whil ei cried and helped me put back the pieces of the last one ( my high school sweetheart).Your story kind of scares me that he will never be th eperson i knew again…..i hope i find out soon so i can either move on or ge tmy life back on track.

All the best to yoU!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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futuremrsjisa:  But how do you know when to give up? How do you know whether he was right for you in the first place or not? What if he was just a learning experience that I clung onto and now with his behavior its just not worth it?

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Muhlhauser Barn

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futuremrsjisa:  This made me cry and gave me goosebumps. I did not go through physical abuse like you unfortunately did but i did go through a terrible marriage and divorce that was rittled with lies and deception.  I met MY David while i was technically still married and my ex wouldn’t sign the papers either. It seems our Davids helped us when we were at our lowest and its always at our lowest we see true colors in people. Its easy to be with someone when they are happy and easy going. Its tough to be with someone who is sad or going through a lot. It shows a lot about your (and my) David’s character. I wish you well my dear. Remember to stop looking back on all the hurt. Youre not going that way, your way is in front of you <3

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Im glad you could get out and that everything got better!

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