Post # 1
So I am 10 months away from my perfect wedding. My FH and I have been busily planning and I am blogging daily to the wonders of wedding planning. Wedding planning huh? Seems someone forgot to include OTHER planning in there… somewhere… and now I am 96 % sure I am pregnant. Ouch.
I work as a visiting nurse for a catholic organization which will not cover in their health plan any form of birth control, I am allergic to condoms and frankly we dont like to use them. We use these dissolving strips of spermacide which for 3 years has worked brilliantly. I have a 7 year old son, and about 6 months after we got together, I had my IUD out and was going to switch to the pill *I was not working for that company yet* so anyways… we had a condom break before I could get back on the pill, I did get pregnant immediately and I miscarried immediately *too many hormones still in my system*…
So… I recently sprained my ankle at work and was laid up for a week out of work. It was actually kind of fun. He pulled the couch bed out for me so I wouldn’t have to get into the bedroom and we camped out in the living room for a week. Well one time during that unable to get into the bedroom phase we had an intimate moment… and… no available strips and it was only two days after my period… I was in a pain killer haze and wasn’t thinking correctly…. and then again… two days later… he woke me up and we weren’t thinking about it…
Anyways… we planned on starting to have children immediately – like the wedding night. Frankly we would have liked to do it before but we REALLY wanted to be married first. So we planned to ditch the protection on the wedding night… but now… 10 months before the wedding??? ARGH I am FREAKING OUT… and can’t really test for 2 more weeks…
I guess I just needed to vent… my 7 year old is finally old enough we could go on a honeymoon…. AND we really wanted to have one last hurrah before having more children… somewhere warm where my top is optional and drinks come mandatory with little umbrellas…
Now… breastfeeding at the alter? My my. Am I bad for kind of hoping not even though I REALLY do want more children immediately?
Post # 3
Oh my Gosh, just know that everything always happens for a reason. Just wait it out and see what happens.
Post # 4
I hope that it’s just a bad feeling and that you aren’t really pregnant. Normally, people don’t conceive until about 2 weeks after their period if their cycle is around 28 days but if you have an irregular cycle it might be different. Whatever happens, I’m sure you two can figure it out!
Post # 5
How long is your cycle? It sounds like you were intimate pretty early on and may have missed the fertile period. All I can really suggest is monitoring your body for any changes. The worst part is waiting. It can be awful when you can’t tell for sure. 🙁
Post # 6
I totally agree with Myra G…everything happens for a reason. Try not to stress too much…sooon enough you will be able to find out for certain!
Post # 7
Oh my. I’m sorry that you have to deal with this right now!!! IF you are pregnant – because you might not be – but IF you are, and you still want the honeymoon/not breastfeeding at your wedding etc…is there any way to move up your wedding? No matter what…you can still have a dream wedding and blog about it and have another baby. You obviously love each other a lot – you want more children – a child might just be coming a little earlier than expected. But no matter what, if you love each other and are the right partners for each other, then you will figure out how to juggle everything in a way that works for you. hugs!!!!!
Post # 8
Thank you guys for all the support. I am actually REALLY in tune to my body. I have had 5 pregnancies and miscarried 4 times… 3 when I was trying to get pregnant with my son and the one I mentioned before. All 5 pregnancies I knew immediately that I was pregnant… like.. days. Actually my old OBGYN used to joke that they should patent my DNA and market it as a pregnancy test cause it would be the most accurate on the market. But I am hoping the feeling is just anxiety… my periods are irregular and I really can’t go to the doctors as I just switched all my insurance with this new company and haven’t found a new OBGYN…. sigh… watching and waiting…. each time I was pregnant… by week 2 I was having cravings, peeing constantly and falling asleep any second I could *including cat naps in my car between patients*… … sigh… let me just pray it’s stress… I guess a couple weeks time will tell…
No real hope of pushing up the wedding. If said pregnancy did exist I would be due in Sept lol… might have to push it back though… I definately did NOT want a baby shower before bridal shower… but you’re right, everything happens for a reason, and I dont want to stress too much because I am a high risk pregnancy when I am pregnant and wouldn’t want to cause something bad to happen. But if I buy one more double cheeseburgers *which btw… I dont eat ground beef normally, only when pregnant* I am going to fricking explode.
Post # 9
That’s tough! Fiance has had a few cousins get pregnant prior to the wedding, and we swore that we’d change that pattern. However I switched my pill from night to morning, and have taken 4 late this month.We too want kids immediately, but I’d rather not be visible pregnant on my wedding day!FI and I talked about it today actually, the ‘what if we got pregnant’ talk. I’d be awfully embarrassed having a baby shower instead of a honeymoon, but Fiance and I both agreed I’d get a new dress and we’d stand there feeling extra blessed. Not a situation i’d like to deal with though.
Good luck. I hope that you aren’t, but life doesn’t always go as planned.
Post # 10
The good news is you know you want to have more children soon. Don’t stress about anything until you know for sure, but even then, IF you happen to be pregnant already, it’s reason to celebrate (even if it happened earlier than you’d planned)! I’m sure you’ll make the best of it. You *may* just have to increase your guest numbers by one
Post # 11
((HUGS)) I’m another know i’m pregnant after a few days… i agree with the pp everything happens for a reason when will it be time for you to take a test?
Post # 12
I agree with other posters, everything happens for a reason! This might be a bit off-topic, but isn’t there another way to get affordable birth-control pills (planned parenthood, generics, etc) even if your insurance doesn’t cover it? It might be valuable information for other bees searching the threads … anyways hope everything works out for you, I am sure it will!
Post # 13
Well a friend of mine recently brought that up too, that if I go to planned parenthood and tell them that specificially because I work for a catholic organization and they will not allow birth control *even for medical reasons like endometriosis and cycle regulation* that I could probably get it discounted or free. But FH and I had a long long long talk. 1) we are not little kids we can’t just throw caution to the wind 2) if I DID happen to get pregnant the world would not stop and 3) we dont want to get my body regulated on hormones I plan to be on for less than a year….
So… just waiting now… and feeling better about it thanks to you ladies. FH started picking up signs the last few days and is floating on air… frankly if I end up not being pregnant or miscarrying early again he’s going to be devestated… Sigh…
Oh Archdioses of Boston also will not pay for fertility treatments. Thankfully I shouldn’t need them but I have a lot of scar tissue from the miscarriages and the 13 week premature birth of my son that pregnant will = short term disability then long term disability on bedrest for entire pregnancy.
Post # 14
awww, your Fiance is so cute!!! I know it’s hard to do, but stressing about it now won’t help anything … and since you guys know fo sho that you want kids soon then either the “yes” or “no” would both work, right?
I was asking about the pill because I take YAZ for both BC and my hardcore PMS, and I don’t know what I would do if my insurance didn’t cover it! It’s a bummer that your employer’s health insurance might not cover all of your needs though …
Post # 15
You need health care. Your employment and insurance situation right now is *cough* less than ideal.
Go to planned parenthood, they have a sliding scale. They have *wonderful* health care services and are one of the few accurate sources of women’s health information. Your situation is exactly why I donate to them – people need access to affordable healthcare. Also, if you chose to do so, they can help you with low cost birth control methods/prescriptions.
I’m sorry that all of this is happening at a less than ideal time.
Post # 16
If you do decide you want the pill now or in the future, a lot of those discounted programs like at walmart or target have a generic pill for $10 a month… The timing sucks, but better to be one month post-pregenacy than 9 months pregnant and risk going to labor at the altar, right?