Post # 1
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Helper bee
SO and I spent Thanksgiving with my family and it was okay… Except for the fact that my aunt and grandma (neither of whom are fans of SO and I’s relationship) cornered me. They don’t like us dating because there’s an 11 year age difference. They think he’s a nice guy and stuff, they just don’t like us being together. They interrogated me about my relationship and where I’m living and if we’re having sex. At Thanksgiving. Thank GOD my mom intervened and made some comment to change the subject. Needless to say, I beat feet after that! My future sister-in-law and I went downstairs to vent since they did the same thing to her like 20 minutes after I escaped.
What is it with family and them asking about living situations and sex?? I would not want to know if my granddaughter was having sex! Why does my grandma want to know?!
Post # 3
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Honey bee
i’m sorry, that really sucks. that was totally inappropriate!!!
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
That does stink. We had some family drama to. My Fiance is a pilot and had a 3 hour sit in town. So I went to pick him up and brought him over to the Grandparents house for dinner. Well as usual my aunt and her family were 45 minutes late. We needed to leave so I could get him back to the airport. My Fiance and I along with my Dad and his wife went ahead and ate. The rest of the family (about 10 people) waited on them to arrive. My aunt got pissed and said that it was highly impolite to eat without the whole family there. Really?? Am I missing something weren’t you 45 minutes late? I think that’s highly impolite. She took all her food and went and put it in the car and said that was a waste of food. I was so upset I just don’t understand why there has to be one pot-stirrer in every family!
Post # 5
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Helper bee
Ahh…the holidays… Something about weddings and families and holidays are just a recipe for snark.
Post # 6
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Busy bee
Oh lordy….wow that’s pretty intense. I checked your profile and saw that you’re 19. At that age, 11 years is a pretty major difference. I know it’s not fair, but that’s just kind of how it is. I think your family is probably just looking out for your best interests. How soon are you getting married? How long have the two of you been dating? Sometimes you have to step outside of yourself and see things from your family’s perspective. I hope the family drama dies down, but just be understanding of their side of things. Did you read any of Mrs. Star’s posts about being a “young-ish bride”? They’re really great and might help with what you’re going through. Good luck, hun.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
We’re not engaged yet. We’ve been dating close to a year and a half. I want to finish college (I will graduate with my Bachelor’s degree this May because I started college at 15), and I want to be settled and secure in my career before getting engaged. We’re definitely not getting married until I’m at least 21, all of which the family knows. My parents are super supportive and think that SO would make a great son-in-law, my dad’s words!!!! 🙂 lol, it’s just my snooty aunt and grandma that have issues with it, making any encounters with them incredibly frustrating!
I’ll check out Mrs. Star’s posts though, I’m curious how others deal with being so young and thinking about marriage.
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