- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Going anon for this because I am really, really embarrassed.
My Fiance and I got engaged over a year ago. Prior to that, we talked about our wedding, we talked about rings, we even went ring shopping together. I have kind of stumpy fingers, like stupid sausage fingers and I hate them.. so one of my specifications was a ring that wasn’t too bulky or thick (because it would go up too close to my knuckle)… I also said I really liked pink and would really like pink in my ring in some form (whether it be rose gold band, pink stone, like whatever anything pink. but had to be something). I was pretty specific that I prefer a moissy ring to diamond (just because I knew he wouldn’t do the research/make sure it’s not a conflict diamond and I have big issues with that). so we decided on a moissy. great.
Well, he got me a nice ring… but no pink, and it was really thick. I have a feeling he just forgot, but it really bothered me and looked horrible on my hand.
I know that I soundl ike a brat/princess/diva/bridezilla, whatever… but I tried to love it, but I didn’t. and when time came to order our wedding bands, the matching one was even worse and together they literally went up to my knuckle. so…
long story short: We ended up deciding to order me a wedding set (instead of just a band) which would give me a new e-ring too. Yay, right? We were looking, found the perfect ring, had my pink in it, blah blah blah, he said he was ok with it. we order it..
then the week it shipped and we got notification he got really bitter, and it came out he was really pissed. naturally he is more important to me than a ring so I say, okay I will return it, I don’t want something as silly as a ring to come between us! he says no.
Flash forward to yesterday, the rings came…and it is beautiful.. but now I feel like it is tainted, I feel like a bitch, I feel so guilty… but the real kicker is that now HE LOVES IT! and he was all “I should have got you this from the start”…
really? so here I am feeling horrible, feeling like I should return it…but he doesn’t want me to. He wants to sell the original one, which now … suddenly I don’t want to! I mean I don’t need 2, but he proposed with it! I would maybe.. maybe be okay selling it if he put the money towards the new one (the new one in a set was less expensive than the original, but he had me pay for it!) but he wants to use it to wards something else (not sure what). so if that’s the case it’s like he never bought me a ring and I bought my own .
We have combined finances now anyways… does it make a difference? I’m not really sure what I am feeling, other than confused and..WTF (if you count that as a feeling). I don’t know what to do 🙁
I think this was more a vent than anything but.. ya…