(Closed) thereapy/meds/self-help, etc. hasn't helped

posted 6 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Stace126:  Did any of your therapists try exposure therapy?  

Post # 4
9230 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

How many combos of meds did you try?  I have extreme general anxiety disorder and major clinical depression myself and I had to go thru several mos of adjusting meds to get it right.

The amount of pain you are in tells me you need the right med combo as well as therapy.

The drug manufacturers have assistance programs for people who can’t afford their meds.

Post # 5
2269 posts
Buzzing bee

@zerlina:  that’s what I did. I had to do it through a book on my own due to lack of funds. “Panic Attacks Workbook” by Dr. David Carbonell. I was agoraphobic, anxious half of the time, always avoiding, and his book helped me get my life back. Not all books are created equal. His website is anxietycoach.com

What specifically are you afraid of? I was afraid of losing control and going crazy (doesn’t help that my mother and brother are schizophrenic). I’m still afraid of those things to a minor degree, but I haven’t panicked in over two years.

Post # 6
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@Stace126:  First off, I’m sorry you’re in such a bad place right now.  I bet that is a really scary feeling to have.  I’ve experienced anxiety in the past as well, but most likely not to the degree that you’re describing.  A book that really helped me was “The Feeling Good Handbook” by David Burns.  He uses the principles of Cognitive Behavior Therapy, which helps to change your thinking, behavior, and emotional responses.  Of course, you might need a combination of medical intervention and CBT (or ET), but I think it could really help you.  I also think it’s really important to journal and consider turning to your faith for strength and support.  Best wishes to you and may 2013 bring you happiness and good health!!  Hugs!!

Post # 7
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  I just wanted to send some well wishes your way. I know it’s frustrating when you feel like you’ve tried everything and nothing gets better. Do you still see a therapist? If so, do you like your therapist? Do you feel as though they are helping you? The therapist made a world of difference to me. In college, the first one I was assigned to was just learning English. I would always have to slow down my talking, repeat things I had said, and explain certain idioms I used.

  Then, I started working with this great therapist who had worked with me previously in a group. It was the best experience I could have ever had. We ended up working together for another two years, and he was also still the leader of this other group I was in. I made so much progress! I really wish I could continue to see him, but unfortunately, he was through my old university. I like my therapist now, but it’s not quite the same as it was.

  You also do seem to be under a lot of stress, and I see that you have a lot of life changing things going on in your world. That never makes it any easier for someone who struggles with anxiety! I am glad to see that it seems like you have some really supportive people in your life. It might be that you have a standing appointment with a therapist for a really long time. I go about once every 3-4 weeks for a check-in, and that has helped to keep some of my anxiety at bay. It’s nice being able to talk to someone that isn’t my Darling Husband. I keep him updated on everything, but I also don’t want Darling Husband to feel that he has to take on the role of my therapist.

  I don’t know if I offered any helpful advice or not, but when I would post an anxiety post on here, it just felt good to hear people say they understand. I hope things get better for you!

Post # 8
3246 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Stace126:  Oh, dear, I’m sorry you are feeling like this!

I have anxiety too, but not to the level you do. It does sound like therapy and trying some different medications may be what you need to try, again. 

But I got truly amazing help from acupuncture over the summer, and I’d like to suggest that you give it a try, too. It made me feel like nothing could get to me, which was a revelation. I stopped it for a few months and experienced bad (for me) anxiety during that time, so I am getting acupuncture again, and it has helped but not as much as the first time, at least not yet (I’ve only been twice, and it usually take a few treatments for it to kick in). I highly recommend trying it, especially since it looks like you’ve tried everything else. Most acupuncturists can also do Chinese Herbal Medicine, which though it sounds weird is also truly amazing.

I hope you find something that will help you!


Post # 9
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Stace126:  I was feeling somewhat similar to you recently and although not to the extent you are, I just want to say you are not alone.

Something I learned about generalized anxiety is that often people who have it have a difficult time eradicating it because they either a) have a positive belief about it (as in, if I worry, I will be better prepared for any outcome) and/or b) have a negative belief about it (as in, If I keep worrying, I might go crazy).

Have you been able to get to the bottom of why you worry?  For me, it was more the positive belief about it.  Worrying felt like preparation for me, but I had to really sit an think about it and make myself understand that worrying doesn’t do anything productive except take up time, change my mood and exhaust me. 

Just from what you typed, it sounds like you’re scaring yourself into worrying.  The more you worry, the more you’re afraid that you’re not able to be helped, which makes you worry more.  And it sounds like you think you’re predisposed to it because it runs in your family – but it could really be a self-fulfilled prophecy here.  Both my parents were alcoholics, but I don’t have a drinking problem and I never will.  I’m not the same person that they were, nor am I living under the same circumstances they were.

Have you thought about it this way at all before?

Post # 11
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Stace126:  Yup, exposure therapy is where you “expose” yourself to your fears in a very systematic manner.  Research indicates that it is highly effective at treating anxiety.  A good therapist should be able to help you figure out how you could define your non-tangible fears as specific situations to confront. 


Post # 12
3580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Stace126:  hi honey. I’m changing from Paxil to Lexapro today in fact. I have heard a lot of great things about it and Paxil made me feel like a zombie too. Since you don’t have insurance can I assume you’re currently not on anything? Also, if you take anything for anxiety (Valium, Xanax, etc) it can actually have an adverse reaction and make you feel more depressed, it does that to me…

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