The only person you are fooling here is yourself.
You posted on here, frustrated and exhausted from dealing with your boyfriend’s temper problems that you have been aware of since day one and acting like he is suddenly behaving differently. There were tons of red flags in your post regarding his behavior that sound a lot like precursors to abuse and you even admitted you don’t have the best judgment because of your history of being abused and falling into a pattern of dating abusive men.
Now that pps have pointed these things out, you are majorly backpedaling all of a sudden because you don’t like the advice you’ve gotten.
And now you’re gaslighting yourself, making excuses for him and claiming that he’s not that bad, I was exaggerating, ect. That the conclusion we all unanimously came to is “a leap” even though one could argue that an individual who has a known temper problem who has outbursts in the workplace and is now escalating and having outbursts in his personal life may become abusive in the future. That’s not a leap, that’s logic and common sense.
So OP-tell me: are you now saying that he doesn’t have a temper problem? That he doesn’t have outbursts at work? That he does not have a bad attitude? Which parts are not true in your OP? And if so, why are you lying to us? What were you trying to get out of this?
“From the get go, I have known he had a temper and a complete inability to control his emotions. This showed itself itself through his job– always getting trouble at work for outbursts. He always had an explanation and he never brought that behavior home with him so I always just let it go. With everyone else, he is a very tricky person to get along with. He just has this tendency to be argumentative and sometimes just rubs people the wrong way. Again, never acted this way towards me so I let it go.
*RECENTLY, HIS ATTITUDE HAS BEEN CHANGING. He’s becoming nitpicky and sometimes just downright rude.”
What has changed???????????????
He has always been this way, you admit you knew this in the upper paragraph. Why are you confused about his behavior? He has quite consistently been an asshole and now that he thinks he has locked you down, he’s getting comfortable being his true asshole self to you as well.
Stop making excuses for him. He is an asshole. You are repeating the cycle of dating abusers. WAKE UP