Theres always a better dress…

posted 12 months ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I just don’t really look at dresses! As soon as I got my dress I stopped browsing online, looking at dresses on instagram etc.  If I see a dress I just think objectively if it is nice or not, I don’t think about it in terms of my wedding. 

There will always be gorgeous dresses, you just have to stop yourself thinking about it! 

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

It’s funny because I only started to think about other dresses now I’m married. I chose a dress with no beading or sparkle and did have a fleeting moment of thinking I may have missed out. But the dress and the memories are all tied up together. I will never wear another wedding dress. But I still like to look.

Post # 4
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500 posts
Busy bee

idontevenknow :  So I was a super indecisive bride who said yes to 4 different dresses before finding “the one” (I didn’t put any money down except on the last one though). it’s funny, the lady I bought my dress from gave me the safest advice when I was shopping and it’s honestly pretty much curtailed my tendency to look for the next best dress. She told me, “dresses are like men. There is always going to be another good man and there will always be another beautiful dress out there. You just have to pick one you love and commit to it.” I was like…..*brain implodes a little* like, it seems so obvious, it’s silly, but hearing it out loud has made me love and commit to my choice all the more.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

 

mrsbarack :  ha! I was about to say something similar. You commit to a dress like you commit to your spouse. You pick one you like the most, who’s negatives you don’t mind as much and then you stop trying out new ones. 

Post # 6
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1387 posts
Bumble bee

I totally believe this and for a while it really bothered me after my wedding when I would see these gorgeous dresses and think I should have gone for something more like that. But at the end of the day, I realize that I wasnt comfortable or able to spend multiple thousand dollars on a dress, I still loved it and my husband thought I looked amazing

Comparison is the thief of joy! 

Post # 7
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331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Stop looking!!! Your dress is chosen and it is yours and you will look beautiful. Also – it is just a dress, you are not missing out on a vital life experience if you don’t get to wear a fit and flare. Come now… focus on what really matters. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Honestly what helps me get over feeling that there is always a better dress out there is accepting that there is always a better dress out there lol. Basically my thoughts on it are – I made my choice, there’s no point in fantasizing over making a different choice. Even if I found a new dress that I thought was better than my original choice, what if I find yet another better dress after that dress? What if I can’t stop thinking about my original dress, and feel like I made a mistake? Is the “better” dress even really better in reality? There are always going to be more beautiful dresses out there. New dresses that weren’t even around when you were picking out your dress. But you can’t possibly buy each new dress that you see that you love.

You picked your dress for a reason, when you were wearing it you loved it and thought it was THE dress, just remember that feeling when you had it on, and stop trying to think if another dress would be better for you. There’s no way you can know if those other dresses would ACTUALLY be better (as long as you don’t try them on), but you DO know how you felt in your dress, so focus on that. That’s how I think about it, anyway.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

There will probably always be a “better dress”, just like there will just about always be someone prettier and smarter than you. That’s okay. It’s one of those things you have to learn to accept. 

I mildly regret my dress choice looking back, but honestly it just wasn’t that important to me. I prioritized other things, and I wasn’t willing to spend thousands on a dress. It’s just a dress you’re wearing for one day, it’s okay if it’s not perfect. I could have found something that I liked better if I had raised my dress budget and looked longer, but at the end of the day it really doesn’t matter. I still looked nice, got some beautiful wedding photos, and my husband liked the way I looked. I still had a beautiful and lovely wedding surrounded by family and friends. I still got married. Those are the things that matter. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I love seeing people’s dresses online, and all the wedding shows. While i love observing them and seeing the new trends, i almost never see something and feel “i would wear that”.

When i selected my dress, i purchased it without ever trying it on as a sample online. I just knew that was it, and who knows when i would come across one i’d like again.

There’s no danger in enjoying other dresses so long as your mindset is just for admiring their objective beauty and not picturing yourself in it.

Post # 11
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Worker bee

So I actually ended up hating my first dress and bought the second one. My fiance almost lost it when he heard, because my first dress I had purchased was 2k and the second one that I ended up loving and then purchasing was 3k. In my case, I had EVERY reason to go with the second dress. I had it custome made and it did not live up to my expectations. Sadly, I could not get my money back, which is a long story that I am not going to get into. When I showed my husband the first wedding dress ( this happened after our wedding, where he was absolutely obsessed with my actual dress that I wore the day of our wedding) he said “thank god you did not wear the first dress.

If you “love” your dress like you mentioned in your op, then I would just stop looking altogether. I did not love my first dress AT ALL. My bff is getting married in September of this year, she purchased her dress last year and she completely stopped looking at other dresses.

 

This is my wedding dress. I got married in Oct 2017 <3

 

Post # 12
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3966 posts
Honey bee

hachi :  Ok, well now we are all dying to see dress 1 that got passed over!

Post # 13
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644 posts
Busy bee

I did so much searching before I chose my dress that I knew it was the best thing out there for my taste. I usually do have regret like you mentioned, but still haven’t experienced that over two months later. And I still follow a ton of gown designers on IG.

Post # 14
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Honey bee

It seems to me that wedding dresses are more beautiful than they’ve ever been in the entire history of marriage.  There is SO much variety now. Every possible style and fabric, different colours, necklines, sleeves and hem lengths. It’s a smorgasboard of choice and I can see why brides find it hard to settlle on just one dress. 

There will always be another beautiful dress out there when there are thousands of beautiful dresses out there. At least this forum gives us all the chance to celebrate the beauty of bridal gowns.

Post # 15
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6299 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

My dress was co-designed by my mother (a designer and seamstress) and I and then my mother made it. I felt overwhelmed at the beginning of the process, until I figured out what body part(s) I wanted to focus on emphasizing and the feeling I wanted to have in the dress. Then I just stayed focused on those things. My dress wasn’t the most perfect dress I’d ever seen or dreamed of (I never dreamed of a wedding dress), but it emphasized the body parts I wanted to emphasize; I felt magnificent on my wedding day (and great throughout the entirety of the day); It was in my budget and I had an amazing time designing and working on it with my mother!

I think you should focus on a couple priorities and then, as PPs have said, stop looking!

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