- 5 years ago
We met a couple the other night and the guy was standing behind his wife (they are both 26) the whole time they were at a house get together we were at.
The guy had his hands on his wife’s shoulders like he was SO proud that it was his wife. Later on some of the guys were joking about how the chick should of NOT been wearing the skirt she was wearing because she was a very big girl… I thought it was awful they said that and said well atleast you can tell her hubby loves her SOOO much! He was like radiating behind her with his love for her. (Turns out they have been married for 4 years and dating since they were 16.)
They all agreed and said, MAN yeah you can tell she was his first love. I was like what does that mean? The guys were like well, every guys “first love” they get enfatuated with and immaturely obsessed, that’s why if you ever met a couple that they were each others first boyfriend and girlfriend or love, you can tell the dude is obsessed with their girl.
I could not believe they were saying this…they said its TRUE, and all started talking about how even though their first girlfriends were the biggest Byatches that they were so head over heels for them back then, bc it was their first love, girlfriend etc…and were blinded by how terrible they were or treated them..
And that a lot of times there is no stronger loving, obsessive feeling like there is with a guys first girlfriend… 🙁 ( i don’t believe this by the way, but it pissed me off, lol)
Hmmm what do yall think about that? You think it has to do with the man’s first sexual experience and feeling really attached to the girl bc they had never felt a womans touch or body before?
It kinda hurt my feelings that my man was agreeing with them on this convo. He was like I mean I don’t like my ex AT ALL and am glad i am not marrying her, bc she is not who I should be with! but yeah ” I agree, your first love is such a Strong love and so powerful, because it’s your first love”
Ugggh then i remembered finding some old love letters my man and his ex sent each other…and he was saying such MUSHY things to her, mind you he was 20, but he was saying mushyier things to her than he did me when we first started dating.. I mean he says mushy romantic things to me, but he was OVER the top with her, talking about the kids they would have and being a family, etc etc..what color stones he would get in her ring, etc etc like way more detailed mushy things… almost creepy mushy…lol
The guys were like yeah, guys start out mushy and overly lovey and romantic and then their first girlfriend BURNS them and thats when the guys get that hard shell on when expressing their emotions and love for you etc.
Anyways this made me really SAD, I am not saying it iS TRUE, but the fact that 10 good looking guys, all from different backgrounds in their 30’s were agreeing to this statement made me sad:(