(Closed) There's no need to get so defensive!

posted 6 years ago in Venue
Post # 4
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46410 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You asked where she was getting married. She likely assumed that choice of venue was important to you. She was just telling you that it’s not important to her.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Maybe it’s defensive, maybe she’s sad about the lack of fanfare around her simple ceremony, maybe she’s super pumped but a low-key person, maybe she hates facebook…

Impossible to tell based on a 2 line reply.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I think it’s impossible to tell seeing as she doesn’t believe in grammar.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It doesn’t sound too defensive to me, but you know her better than us  If she gets defensive over that minor of a comment, I’d drop the wedding chat with her!  🙂

Post # 10
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6349 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think it sounds defensive.

TBH I am sick of people saying they don’t care about where their wedding is/how much it costs, because all that matters is that they’re marying the love of their life; I don’t know, I always just think it sounds like a snarky dig at people spending more, especially as often it’s coupled with something like ‘we don’t need to spend lots of money to prove our love’.

If people want a small or budget wedding, that’s great; if others want to splash out and have all the ‘pomp and ceremony’, that’s also great.

So yeah, I read her comment as defensive; but maybe that’s because as a bigger budget bride in the UK, I’m a bit fed up of defensive/snarky comments.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

@clumsylawyer:  Girl I’m serious! There are no commas! I don’t know if it’s one sentence or 3! Don’t worry about it. I’d respond with “Oh gosh are you excited?? I’m excited for you!”

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@barbie86:  I got that a lot and there were times when it really upset me. It’s particularly ironic when a lot of the people who came out with that line on the forum where it was most prevalent were the ones unhappy in their relationship.

 

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