(Closed) There's no ring porn in here, but there is a poll.

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I say anyting?
    Quit being a baby, you get to marry the man, love what he loves : (25 votes)
    25 %
    You can ask what they overall style is and see what he's comfortable saying : (11 votes)
    11 %
    Just explain why you want to know, he'll understand : (23 votes)
    23 %
    You're ruining the fun! If you hate it you can just get a fancy wedding band later : (42 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    14065 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I voted just explain why you want to know, and try to find out.  Or maybe see if he’ll propose sooner.  Did he shop around a lot?  Do they have an good exchange policy so you can exchange it at their store even if you can’t return it for your money back?  I’m sorry, but it just seem sort of a silly waste of money to me to wait until a return policy expires to see if you are picky and truely concerened you may not like it.  Did you send him any sample pictures of rings you liked?  If so, he probably went along those lines. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    What will you do if you hate it and you can’t exchange it?

    Personally, I wouldn’t say anything. BUT if you don’t trust your FI’s sense of what style ring is pretty and what isn’t (because some guys can be clueless about that stuff), then go ahead and ask him. 

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    2557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would keep mum and trust your FI’s taste in rings.  Especially if you gave him some input.  🙂

    And, you never know.  Some stores will bend their exchange rules under certain circumstances.  But, you’re gonna love the ring, so it won’t matter!!

    Post # 6
    Member
    4693 posts
    Honey bee

    I bet you’ll love your ring regardless, unless he picks something he knows you’ll hate (one Bee had that problem if I remember correctly, but from the rest of the thread it seemed like they had no business getting married).

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    885 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I’m absolutely sure you will LOVE your ring! If not, you can always upgrade!! 

    Post # 8
    Member
    6746 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Has he bought you jewelry before?  If so, have you liked or disliked it?  What makes you think that he won’t get you what you like?

    Post # 9
    Member
    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    My DH was the same way. He wouldn’t look at any of the rings I showed him that I liked, because he wanted to do it all on his own. I was freaking out like you are. But in the end, he picked an amazing ring that I would never have thought of. So trust your man to do a good job. He did pick you after all 😉

    Post # 10
    Member
    443 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I agree that you should keep quiet. It is obviously very important to your future FI that he picks out the ring all by himself. And he picked this ring for a reason, so I would imagine he would be devastated if you hated it and wanted to return it.Besides most guys are pretty intune to what their girls want, believe it or not they actually listen when we say what we like and don’t! So I bet you will love it no matter what 😀

    Post # 11
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    8044 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @LadySmurph:  I don’t think that you’ll be able to make much of a judgment until you see the ring.

     

    Post # 13
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    1722 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Ok I was kind of in the same boat as you and I was awful to my poor FI.  He had never bought jewelry, ever!  I was freaking out, I rarely wear any sort of jewelry so I thought for sure he was going to screw it up and I told him that.  Luckly he was very understanding (in a way) he laughed and told me to back off because this was his thing.  In the end he did GREAT!!! I would have never picked my ring for myself but I love it so much, it fits my personality perfectly.  It is OKAY to be nervous but trust your guy, he will probably come through for you.  But if it is really bugging you maybe ask your mom or his mom (if you are close to her) to ask if they can see the ring and see if they think you will like it. 

    Here’s a picture of my sparkly that he picked all by himself 🙂

    Post # 14
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    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    To be honest, my fiance bought my ring without any input from me, and when I first got it I wasn’t too impressed. It was nice (and he shelled out a bit of money for it!), but it wasn’t what I would have picked for myself – big, three stone, big centre stong (by my standards). Now, however, I absolutely love it and couldn’t imagine wearing anything else. It’s a yellow sapphire, with two diamonds set in yellow gold and, ungrateful as it sounds, I was wondering why he didn’t pick a different coloured sapphire. But now I just love the colours and different hues in the stone he picked, and it’s actually quite a good ring to wear – the sapphire and diamonds just look gold and silver, which makes it easy to wear with anything. And the sparkles!

     

    Anyway, I guess what I’m saying (while rambling about myself) is that even if your initial impression of the ring is Are you serious? you never know how you’ll feel about it once you’re used to it. Unless it’s super tacky or something, which it hopefully won’t be

     

    Post # 15
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    3248 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    How come the mention of a poll in the title and the symbol of a poll next to it made me open this post?  What is it about the hive that makes me love polls so much? I never do them IRL.  How odd…

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