(Closed) there’s really not a lot of pomp and circumstance in my wedding…

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Imagine a milestone birthday. Or if you have a good memory, your First Communion (if you had one). You got dressed up, had a big party and did you feel special? Of course. Was it a special day? of course! Same as the wedding. You are marrying the man of your dreams (hopefully, haha) and that itself, is amazing.

Post # 4
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m doing a small wedding (35-50 people) and wondering a lot of the same things. We’re having people come from way out of town for it too, and I hope we don’t disappoint them when they’ve travelled so far. I almost feel obligated to have a huge wedding with all the bells and whisltes but that’s just not me/us.

I’m not worried about it being special, I’m worried it won’t be special enough for everyone else. I feel your pain.

Post # 5
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We had a tiny wedding (only a dozen guests).  We had wedding bands, but they are just plain gold bands with no stones, and we didn’t have engagement rings at all.  We had a wedding party of two people, and they wore clothes they already owned.  Our transportation was our minivan, and we never got a honeymoon.  Our reception was lunch in the private dining room of a restaurant, with no music or dancing.

However, our wedding day was wonderful!  Because we had so few guests, everyone there was immediate family or very close friends.  We all sat around a single table at the reception.  Thus, instead of having to limit conversations to 30 seconds in order to greet everyone, we were able to have real conversations and enjoy our guests’ company.  We had the restaurant reserved for three hours, and pretty much had to kick people out at the end, because everyone was having so much fun.

Post # 6
2260 posts
Buzzing bee

Your wedding will be special no matter how much you spend or how many extras you have. At the end of the day you are going to be marrying someone you love and that commitment to each other is what will last in your memories.

I love hearing stories of other small-wedding brides have posted and honestly those seem the most authentic to me because you know that the two of you are the focus, not the decor or dress or food.

Post # 7
3261 posts
Sugar bee

Your day WILL be special! Don’t think of all the things youre “missing out” on, think of the happiness thats going to surround you when you realize that you’re marrying the love of your life. Enjoy it, don’t let the best day of your life pass by without appreciating it.

Post # 8
1559 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

As other people have said, the things you remember about your wedding day that make them special aren’t all the extras like fancy decor, the limo, or anything like that…. 

While I had a wedding band and we were fortunate enough to have the honeymoon covered by DH’s dad, there were also a lot of things that we skipped. 

We left in DH’s car, we went the iPod DJ route, and I DIYed all the decor except the flowers (It was going to be just as expensive to do them myself, so i farmed that shizz out to a very sweet florist) 

I think that what you need to do is find things that you can do that will make your day feel more “special”, without really spending extra money. 


1. Even if you can’t buy gifts for each other for the wedding day, write each other a letter to read the morning of the wedding.

2. Do you have a photographer? If yes, try to schedule time in the day to get really great portraits of just you and your hubby. You will be *so* thankful you did when you get your pictures back. 

Can’t afford a photographer? Start asking around now to try to find a friend who is good with a camera, or look into local universities to see if you can find a student photographer willing to shoot for free/cheap to build their portfolio. 

3. Try to do something to make yourself feel “pampered”. I got a mani-pedi using a Groupon my Mother-In-Law bought me, and my mom paid to get my hair done for the wedding. Also, a close friend who is great with makeup did mine for me. 

If you can’t afford to have your hair/makeup done, I def. suggest enlisting talented friends to help you rather than doing it yourself. It will releive stress, and make you feel more pampered if they’re doing it for you. 

Even though my friend was doing my makeup, I totally felt like I was having a great makeup artist do it for me. She’s way better with makeup than I am, and it was so relaxing! 

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