(Closed) These dates and rules are driving me nuts!!!!

posted 9 years ago in East Asian
Post # 32
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Thank you for this post – I feel SO much better not being the only one dealing with this problem.  I’m having trouble finding a venue and date that coincides and makes everyone happy!  

To all the superstitious brides, what did you consult to pick an auspicious date?

Post # 34
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Me and hubby are Christian, so there’s no suspertition there. IL are Christian too, so no problem.

My parents though, they want it to be a good day. I oblige and pick out a general good wedding day w/ an online Chinese calendar, it just eases my parents mind.

I will not let them look into our birthdays and matching up a good day though, that’s too much against my faith.

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I can totally relate!  When i was venue-shopping, I couldn’t even provide a date to know their availibility because my in-laws hadn’t consulted the astrologer.  When we finally got the “lucky” dates they were all dates in winter and I wanted a spring wedding.  Plust my fiance wouldn’t even be in the country!  We told them it has to be in March.  So the “lucky” date is on a weekday and we just need to go to city hall and do the civil ceremony so that “counts.”  Our actual wedding ceremony and reception is a few weeks later!  A bit crazy, but what can you do with supersitious in-laws? 

Post # 36
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh I so understand you. I’m italian and my SO sinhalese, I was so baffled at not being able to choose a meaningful date for us. His family asked me this whole lot of information about my birth day ( down to the name of the hospital! ) and then we had to wait for the astrologer because he was a very popular one and thus overbooked. We wanted to marry in January, but January did not have good dates, so we should do March. Then the astrologer just apparently messed up and got the wrong date, and we finally settled for March 23rd. Oh, and number 23 is associated with ” the fool” here where I live. Oh I’m so going to be made fun of…

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

we wanted a late summer/early fall wedding but when i told my mom, she said pretty much all the dates after mid-july were bad.  she asked, “how about november or december?” i love the winter months but i didn’t want to compete with the holidays.

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My friend did. Her mom went to see a fortune teller to ask when the best wedding dates are.

Sounded like it sucked big time to have to deal with that crap.

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Tell me about it.  My mom was a total nightmare when my fiance wanted to propose.  She kept calling ME to tell me all of the unlucky days, which out of a three week period, there were only three days in which he could propose.  My fiance is caucasian, so he thought my mom was nuts, but was really patient with her.

I’m just shocked that my mother didn’t say anything about me getting married in April, because four is such an unlucky number.

Post # 40
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Ok everyone is going to think I’m silly, but I consulted an strologer to pick my date. I really wanted a winter wedding so I said any Saturday from late January to mid March…and she came up with Jan 21st as being the most auspicious date.

Post # 41
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@louisianablue:  If she brings it up, you can argue: April is actually March on the lunar calendar, which is a good # =D

 

I actually made a compromise with my parents.  As there was no Astrologer or updated “red calendar book” for 2012 until later this year, I just decided to google it.  I found a “fair” (so as long as it’s not a bad day) Saturday in Fall that I wanted to plan my reception on.  After that I told them that they could pick the auspicious City Hall official day of our wedding.

This seemed to suit them fine.

Post # 42
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Wow, sorry you have to deal with that!  I can’t imagine what I’d do if I had to abide by that. MY FI’s parents chose the date for our wedding in China but I chose Nov 10th 2012 for our American Wedding.  It’s not an ideal date in the Chinese calendar but I’m not asian only my Fiance is.  I hope everything comes out great for you.  Best of luck!

Post # 43
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Thank goodness I’m Christian lol

Post # 44
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Busy bee

@Evie19:  Yay! Fiance and I love this because that’s my birthday, lol … oh darn I guess we could’ve had a city hall marriage on my birthday then ^ ^

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My mom’s really into consulting “The Calendar” and “The Fortune Teller,” but we ended up setting the date before she even had a chance to consult since everything was getting ridiculous.  She was a bit disgruntled, but turns out our date is “auspicious” anyway.

And before all the planning, my mom told me, “The fortune teller said 27 is an unlucky year for you to get married.  You should waitan additional six months until you turn 28…”  Seriously?!  I decided that was a no-go.  A month later, mom calls to tell me “Grandma tells me you’re actually already 28 on the Chinese calendar, so you’re good to go.”  SERIOUSLY?!

Hope everything is working out!

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