To be honest i live in UK and we have slightly different views on bridesmaids….
for a start we buy all the wedding attire for them, dress/jewellery, shoes, everything they need to look part of MY day. so there is no unnessasary bad feeling about how much the dresses may cost, cos thats down to me,. but i have picked 3-4 designs that they can choose from, but i pick up the tab.i think thats the way it should be, if i want them to wear a certain dress, one that they will NEVER wear again, why should it cost them? and if i couldnt afford to do it for them, then i would ask less girls to be my bridesmaids…If i cant afford 10 bridesmaids dresses….then i will have 5….(not that i WOULD have had 10 bridesmaids anyway)
Yes it would be nice if they helped with the DIY projects, but its called DIY for a reason……its not called GYBTDIFY….(get your bridesmaids to do it for you) …and personally i think its taking the bridesmaids role a bit far if you expect too much of them.
what i want from my bridesmaids is to come shopping with me occasionally to get their ideas, and opinions, then have a girlie lunch and a few beers maybe…just be WITH me on shopping trips , and maybe not ALL of them, but at least ONE!
i think really, all i expect from my bridesmaids is help ON THE WEDDING DAY, and thats really all. to help me with my hair, hold my flowers when i reach the alter, fluff my dress for the photographs, hand out cake…..(dont know if its just UK tradition or not, but our bridesmaids go around the guests and hand out the wedding cake), maybe fetch something for me while we are getting ready…..like a glass of wine…..or find my shoes, just the little things on the day.
i dont want them to WORK……i want them to go away from my wedding as happy as i am, happy they were chosen to be a part of my day, not clock watching and praying for home time.