(Closed) They are making me want to pull my hair out…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow, I think your Fiance needs to have a conversation with her.  Since she isn’t paying for the wedding, she has no say in the planning (according to me anyway).

Post # 4
1325 posts
Bumble bee

Oh wow. Please go back and get the perfect dress that makes you feel amazing. That makes me incredibly sad.

That being said, I think that a sit down discussion with whomever is paying for this wedding is needed. It’s your future grandparents? Outline budgets, expected contributions from family members, perhaps breaking up the budget in a way together to figure it out? I mean, deciding together to spend X amount on flowers and then you find that.


I don’t know your Future Mother-In-Law but I would already be tempted to throw my hands up because there is drama this early on in the planning and say ” We are getting married here. Join us on this date or don’t” 

Post # 5
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m confused. Is she upset about the dress? Are your future grandparents-in-law now offering to pay for a wedding at home? What is going on, who has a problem, and what do you hope to get out of this?

Post # 6
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

im confused – who is paying for the wedding, Future Mother-In-Law or FI’s grandparents????

either way get the dress you love and pay for it yourself. if someone asks about it you say it was a gift from (insert friend you can trust) or say it was $100 – you dont want to let your Future Mother-In-Law start ruling your life, once it starts you will have issues setting boundries



Post # 7
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

That is really uncalled for and unreasonable; Sometimes I wonder what expectations people have going into weddings; all I expect is that the couple is happy on their day.

Anyways I hope it works out and yes go back and get that dress!!!

Post # 8
1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I say let your Future Mother-In-Law throw a fit over the dress. You are the one paying for it, right? It is NONE of her business how much it is. That is a great price on a wedding dress! You do not have to make any excuses, you’re the bride, you get to pick your dress and you’re paying for it. There should be no issue!

Post # 9
1325 posts
Bumble bee

@Bostonsmom: Yeah. That’s what I don’t get. Usually people don’t get a say in what they are not paying for. Usually the brides dress is included in that category, correct?

Hmm, perhaps she thinks the poster should purchase a cheaper dress, say for $500, and use that extra $300 for the good of the wedding to lesson the load on the future grand parents. If that’s the case, completely unreasonable without discussing it first.

I really can’t find any other logic for the Future Mother-In-Law behavior. Perhaps I didn’t try hard enough though. 

Post # 11
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

$800 is a great price for that dress.  Ms. Busybody is out of touch.

Post # 12
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I say get that DRESS!!

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