(Closed) They denied leave for the wedding.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I’m sorry to hear this!  That’s horrible.  Do they give a reason as to why they are denying leave?  If not, can you question them?  Perhaps show them proof that this wedding has been planned and paid for for quite some time?  I’m hoping there’s a way around this.  Please keep us updated.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t know much about the military, but did they explain why they denied leave? 🙁

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@jamiemichelle:  I am so so so so so sorry about this.  Being an military wife, I know how much the military can make things so difficult.  I’m going through my own crappy Army situation right now.

Please please PM me if you  need to vent.  I know we can’t put too much information out there in cyberland, but if you need to talk, I’m here.  I know how hard it is!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Aack, how awful! Well I don’t know what your situation is, but from my experience it seems likely that you can at least get the day of the wedding off, even if that’s it. Will he have to fly out to the wedding location? Maybe you can red eye him out there the night before and back (wah!) right after. It still sucks, but it’s better than canceling and 11K wedding. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Awh, sweetie, I know there is nothing I can say to make you feel better…just know that I am praying that a miracle does happen for you.  Best wishes!  <<hugs>>

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@jamiemichelle: Can you write your congressman about this? I know that they encourage both the serviceman/woman to go through their chain of command as well as family members, but I think this calls for intervention on this level since it sounds like the chain of command isn’t being very reasonable about this.  Plus, there’s not a lot of time for the chain of comman to lollygag about.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@jamiemichelle: That happened to my Fiance a couple months ago. He had already submitted his leave chit for a few days (not for our wedding tho! I would die!) and they found out higher ups were comin to inspect their submarine and the officers freaked and wouldnt let him leave.

military.is.stupid. I am SO sorry this is happening. there must be SOMEONE he can talk to. Maybe he can go to someone above his chief? It’ll all work out!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You, your Fiance, and family are definitely in my prayers!!  Defintiely do what you can, faith without works…it will work out!! 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m so sorry! The same thing happened to my friend only not as bad. They were planning a small wedding for March (a month before he was supposed to get deployed), they had the venue, flowers, DJ, invitations, just about everything. Then they got word that they were moving up the deployment and he would need to leave at the end up January, no other options. Luckily they were able to speak with vendors who agreed to move the wedding up to a Friday in January. They ended up not losing much money that way. I hope things work out for you!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I know it’s not what you wanted, but I’m glad they allowed him 2 days!!! That’s good, right? At least you don’t have to try to reschedule the wedding!! 🙂

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@jamiemichelle:  I am so happy they gave you your 2 days…although, I agree, I wish you could have gotten what you really deserved.  Yes, the military is so hard.  I always tell my husband that they need to have training for the wives. lol  I mean, the guys know how to deal with it and have it pounded into their skulls every day….but what about us gals?  lol  I am so with you on being done with the military.  I have literally been counting down the days until my hubby is done and can move home (we’re LDM right now).  We were literally down to two months…TWO stinkin measley months.  And we found out last week that they are med boarding him which at least will put him home 6-8 months later…and beings he might have to change his MOS for the National Guard, in a way, he’ll be forced to re-enlist for another 3 years when original contract (pre medboard) was only 1 1/2 more years…So yeah, I feel your pain! 

I guess the only thing you can do is be happy for the 2 days you have and also take pride in what your Fiance does…not a whole lot of guys out there can hack it.  Also, you will be so much stronger at the end of the 3 years.  I promise.  I’m amazed and some of the BS I can put up with now…

One last thought.  Did you purchase trip insurance for your honeymoon?  If you did, why not just delay the honeymoon until he can get leave?  That’s what my Darling Husband and I are doing. 

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