(Closed) They forgot my birthday….would you say anything?

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
957 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would probably say something sly like “what did you do this weekend?” **wait for response and ask follow up questions if necessary **”Oh, that’s nice, we went out of my birthday on Friday at Best Resturant Ever. It’s my favorite restaurant. Other than that, it was pretty low key.”

You can drop the hint, because I am never a “do nothing” type person. However, it’s not demanding a cake or making your business manager feel bad, which they probably will when/if they find out they forgot.

Post # 3
2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

This is why I hate office birthdays. Don’t say anything. The person in charge of dealing with birthdays likely had too much on her plate and forgot. I really doubt it’s personal.

Post # 5
8590 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t say anything. I’m sure it was a mistake.

Post # 6
2783 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t…all it is going to lead to is an awkward belated bday birthday party.

Post # 7
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

MsGinkgo:  Don’t be a dick about it but you could mention it as in a, “hey, I’m not complaining but my birthday was last Friday…” Kind of way.

Post # 8
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s an awkward and rather hurtful situation but worse, is the likelihood of the even more awkward belated birthday celebration if you remind everyone about Friday. Only there’s nothing worse than a guilt-ridden “after the fact” sort of celebration. 

Post # 9
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

MsGinkgo:  HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! This is why I don’t like office birthdays either. I probably wouldn’t say anything like a PP mentioned. It’d be kind of awkward as a “forgot your bday celebration”. And I totally get what you’re saying about you’re not the type to forget. Welcome to my world! And I truly hope you had a good one (besides the dorks at work)!

Post # 10
1612 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Happy Birthday!!!!  This actually happened to me at my office a few years ago.  They had cake for someone’s birthday in the lunchroom and it happened to be my birthday too. Nobody except my office mate wished me a happy birthday.  I would ask what people did the weekend and then say something you did for your birthday.  My office doesn’t do individual birthdays anymore.  We do a monthly cake for birthdays instead.

Post # 13
510 posts
Busy bee

As long as you don’t make it awkward, other people shouldn’t feel awkward. If I was a coworker, I may wonder why you waited until after your birthday to mention it instead of on the day, but other than that, there’s no reason to hide it. Just don’t bring it up in an “oh yeah I’m hyper aware that you guys ignored my birthay lolz” type of way, more of a “This is what I did for my birthday, yay!!” type of way.

Post # 15
546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

MsGinkgo:  birthdays and the acknowledgement of them stop being important after the age of 12. I wouldn’t say anything. Things get busy, especially at work, and while it sucks that your day was overlooked, it’s just going to make things super awkward with a belated party and people feeling like they owe you something or have to celebrate with you. Let it go. 

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