Post # 1
In my mommy’s breast 🙁
I encouraged her earlier this month to go to a Women’s health event at my hospital, and she did. We didnt think much of it, but they called back a few days afterwards to say there was some sort of ‘density issue’ and that they would need further testing. We tried not to think much of this, as some women have denser breasts (more muscle to fat ratio) and need digital mammography instead of the type they normally do? She went back this morning for her digital test/ultrasound. Apparently they saw the results pretty quickly, so my mom knew right away. They found a cm sized ‘something’ near her lymph nodes, but not a lymph node. The doctor was concerned, but not alarmed, and recommended having a biopsy sometime in the next week or two. She doesnt seem too worried on the surface, but I cant imagine her not being terrified. 🙁 She also seems pretty tight lipped about it, and hasnt told me anything more than its size and location.
I’m equal parts completely relieved that I got her to go to this event (and therefore ‘detect it quickly’) and irrationally guilty that I made her go and brought on this new type of stress so soon after my dad lost his job.
I’m also afraid that my past insistence about the evils of Susan G Comen and the underfunding of research for things like Parkinsons (which my grandfather has) and men’s cancers in particular have somehow effected my mother as a form of karma meant for me 🙁 It sounds stupid.
Has anyone had a similar experience, or are there any Medical bees out there who could tell me more than google can?
Post # 3
My mom had stage 3 breast cancer and is currently a 2 year survivor.
Unfortunately, until she has her biopsy, there isn’t much that you’re going to be able to do for her except for be there for her. I’m really glad you got her to go to this women’s event, b/c had she waited longer and it is cancerous, it could have gotten bigger and worse.
After the biopsy, they’ll let her know whether or not the mass is cancerous. If it is, she’ll have to decide if she wants a lumpectomy or if she wants a masectomy. My mom opted for the lumpectomy, but it ended up being in the surrounding lymph nodes making it stage 3. She had to go for a comination of several rounds of chemo and radiation…but like I said, she’s cancer free so far for 2 years.
If you have any questions when your mom gets her biopsy results back, feel free to PM me!
Post # 4
Try not to think the worst right now. It still could just be a cyst. You won’t know anything until the biopsy results come back anyway.
Bascially- just try to stay positive at this point.
Post # 5
There is not much you can do until further testing. It could be cancer, but it also might not be.
And if it is bad news? Treatment is LEAPS and BOUNDS better than it used to be, and the earlier they catch it, the better. So, I am glad that in the event it is cancerous you encouraged her to get tested! You should NOT feel guilty, and no, that is NOT how karma works, hon!
My mother was diagnosed with Stage III breast cancer when she was 47, a very aggressive form (she went for mammograms every year, but was not detected year before and was significant the next, and it was deep so unable to be detected by self-exam), and now almost 8 years later she is still alive and well. She chose a double mastectomy, chemo, radiation and ongoing course of tamoxifen, etc. She does have some ongoing issues, like has to be careful of lymphedema as they had to remove about 20 lymph nodes, and such, but she is still very active, still working her high up position, and so on. One thing I noticed most about her experience was how dramatically different, and better, treatment was compared to when my grandmother had breast cancer years ago (she died in her early 60s of it after several years going back and forth from recurrences to remission – she was first diagnosed in her late 40s or early 50s). Because of my family history, I already have to go for regular testing, and I am glad that I have a doctor who listens to my concerns and I do know that good treatment is there if I need it.
Not everyone has a happy ending of course, and I won’t delude you into thinking it is not scary and a very difficult process for not only the patients but their families and friends, but I do want to say that if it is cancer, she has VERY good chances assuming it was caught relatively early.
You and your mom are in my thoughts.
Post # 6
My mom has had a couple of different “somethings” biopsied over the years and so far (knocks on wood) nothing has been a concern.
Just because they find “something” doesn’t mean there is a problem so don’t get yourself too stressed until they actually have more answers for your mom.
Post # 7
Hugs! I don’t have much advice, but I wanted to let you know that your mom is in my thoughts & prayers 🙂
I can understand her being tight lipped until she at least knows something to tell, otherwise you’re getting all worked up over what might just be a cycst or benign mass. Don’t panic until there’s a reason to panic. And even if there IS a reason to get upset, the medical advances we have now are so much more accurate and less invasive than they were even just 5 years ago.
My aunt is a survivor, she had breast cancer in her late 30’s, and has not had a single issue in over a decade! Never give up hope.
All you can really do is just be there for her, no matter if it’s good news or not so good news. And don’t beat yourself up over encouraging her to go to the fair- you could very possibly have just saved your mom’s life!
Post # 8
Stay away from Google – it won’t tell you anything definitive and will only make you worry more. The best thing is to wait until the biopsy.
Breast cancer has been a too-prevalent thing in my family; both my aunts have had breast cancer (and both received mastectomies). However the GOOD news, GREAT news! is that they are both survivors and are (mostly) healthy now. I say mostly as some of their health issues (one aunt in particular) has nothing to do with her having had cancer.
As to your mom being tight lipped, she’s probably trying to keep both you and herself from worrying until you can know more. Both my mom and I, due to our family history, are adamant about checking ourselves. I found a small lump about two years ago and didn’t even actually tell my mom about it until after I saw a breast surgeon. I didn’t want her to worry until I had answers, and actually talking about it made me worry more myself. I almost didn’t even tell Darling Husband (SO at the time) for the same reason, but I knew he’d have been really upset so I did share it with him, and he was great at keeping me calm (and keeping me away from the internet!). In my case, the lump was a cyst and everything is fine.
You and your mom are in my thoughts! And don’t at ALL feel guilty about taking her to the clinic – you’ve done a great thing for her and her health!
Post # 9
Thank you so much for your support 🙂 We’re obviously praying that it is non-cancerous, or even pre-cancerous so it could be removed immediately. We’re trying to keep a certain humor about it too, my mom keeps making jokes that she always DID want a boob job. I know it still has the potential to be ‘nothing’, so that is keeping us going!