(Closed) They invited their daughter ( we didn’t) can we…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Where should I invite this guest who invited themself?

    She wasn't invited so she has to sit where there is room.

    Add an extra table, she wasn't invited BUT she is now you GUEST, treat her as such

  • Post # 32
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I wouldn’t care, she gets to sit where you put her! I think that’s very rude to add someone who wasn’t invited…and cross off the 2 and put a 3. We actually had our pastor (who DH grew up with) add his 16 year old daughter in which she was not invited and it was an 18 and up reception so we had to tell them she couldn’t come. Thankfully there was no hard feelings, but rules are rules and we had to be fair.

    Post # 33
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I have conflicts with my own family members because I want to invite my godfather but not his live in daughter and her family because well I don’t even talk to them and yes they’re my family but I am doing “close family and friends” not “every person I’m related to”..

    If you can’t afford another table to feed those who invite themselves then that’s their problem, they can sit on the floor.  But that’s just me.  I’m mean haha

    Post # 34
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    maybe she will love sitting t the table with the rowdy guys! or could you jiggle slightly so there is someone else she knows? if not she will just have to deal with it. no way should you have to pay lots extra for someone you didnt even invite

    Post # 36
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Since she is an adult, I wouldn’t think twice about placing her at a table with people she doesn’t know. Perhaps it was her that crossed out the 2 to make it 3, or maybe someone else, but either way… her sitting with strangers will show them to respect the count that you had marked.

    Post # 37
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    You are much kinder than I would have been letting Fiance add an extra table. I say fair warning to her seating situation so she can feel free to decline coming after all!

    Post # 38
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @Angelz_love:  You’re nicer than I am, I would have told her too bad, so sad! Let her sit where there’s room, don’t add an extra table! You’ve already gone through so much work getting your decorations and centerpieces together without adding more!

    PS – how was your bachelorette in Vegas?! I can’t believe we were at the same hotel and didn’t see each other even once! 

    Post # 39
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Idk, they might cross out the other persons name and take their seat!!

    Post # 40
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @Katherine27:  that’s where a coordinator of sorts comes in handy, whether they’re with the venue itself or just a day-of type deal. 

    Post # 42
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @Angelz_love:  Lol I can’t wait to hear all about it! I had an interesting moment or two, myself ;-D

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