(Closed) “They never fight”, awww or yeck?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Arguing is healthy. Fighting is not. However, DH and I didn’t have our first fight until we were together for 13 months. So they may eventuallly get there. LOL.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I beleive that every couple has disagreements. I dont think two people can agree on EVERYTHING. We don’t see what goes on when no one is around..

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

We bicker like it’s our job but we don’t fight. We communicate well so there’s never really anything to fight over. 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We don’t fight.

We talk about things that bug us calmly before things get to a point where we would want to fight. I actually think fighting is really unhealthy because it means you are not communicating/letting things fester until you lash out about them.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

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@Just_Squeeze: Ya it’s kind of crazy. We’ve only had 3 actual fights all were for very good reasons. (one dragged on for awhile though) We just talk about everything and are super open with the other.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I think most of my friends believe my fiance & I never fight, but that’s because I choose not to tell them about those arguments, lol.  It’s none of their business, but I’ll gush about all the sweet stuff that goes on in our relationship.  When we do argue it’s usually over stupid things, and making up is always the best part. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We rarely fight, but I hate it when Fiance tells his friends we “never” fight because we do argue over things sometimes. Overall I think we communicate well but you can’t be 100% happy with everything all the time. If you don’t ever disagree about *anything*, I feel like you’re probably pushing down your feelings or not expressing yourself. I don’t think all-out screaming is very healthy, but everyone has some disagreements.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree that screaming, yelling, name-calling, cursing fights are bad. I think communication is very important and none of the above help in any sort of way. That said, Fiance and I argue, but in a way so that that other knows there is an issue, then we work it out and its done. If I kept my mouth shut, I’m sure we’d very rarely argue, but I’d be frustrated 24/7. I would find it extremely rare to find a long-term couple who had never had an arguement.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

We fight and I think its totally healthy! I think everyone has different communication styles, so a fight will look different for everyone however, I think never disagreeing or arguing about things isn’t healthy, because eventually something will end in a disagreement or argument and they need to know the best and fairest way to do that with one another while communicating well.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

We definitely don’t fight, at least not over anything that really matters. We discuss or debate anything we have differences over calmly and with consideration.

All our “arguments” are about silly little things that don’t actually affect our relationship, like who should pick the seats in the movie theatre, or the fact that DH desperately needs a haircut but he won’t get one (he thinks he looks like a Beatle, I think he looks like a hobo).

We’ve been together over three years, and were friends long before that, and we’ve always been able to communicate honestly and effectively with each other with minimal frustration.

I don’t think it means we were “made for each other” any more than any other happy couple that does have major arguments. I do think we lucked out to have such similar values and ideals that we’ve been on the same page from the start, but it’s more than that. We know how to be respectful and listen to each other rather than spouting our own opinions trying to out-talk the other.

So it’s not that we never disagree, we just don’t ever let it escalate to the point where it becomes an argument.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

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@AudzinLuv: That’s exactly how my SO and I are ๐Ÿ™‚

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