(Closed) They registered for WHAAAAT?! (Registry etiquette question!)

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Are they for both of you? At least as much as china and crystal would be for both of you? Then it’s fine. 🙂

We registered for some videogame accessories (extra Wii controllers, some games) and electronics (a digital camcorder), and we got them, and we both enjoy them a lot. In fact, I don’t see how registering for a videogame system is much different than registering for a tea set… they’re both for entertaining, aren’t they?

I can’t imagine people having so much time on their hands that they would raise their eyebrows at that, but if they do… who needs their opinions? Maybe they won’t buy them, but so what? Maybe they will!

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I actually wouldn’t mind seeing those kind of things on a registry. I think if that’s what you really want then who cares what people think? My Fiance and I already live together and have two of just about everything plus about a billion plates and towels – we’ll probably have some non-traditional things because we just don’t need any housewares.

I actually would have a harder time buying a gift that is on a registry that I personally thought it tacky or ugly. I feel I can’t in good conscious give someone a revolving remote control holder – I just can’t do it! But that’s just me.

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We registered for a PS3 and extra controllers, a digital picture frame and a new ipod. We didn’t see anything wrong with it. I was excited because it made my Fiance really happy to know about some of the stuff we were actually registered for, because he is still a little confused on why we need a casual set of everyday dishes and nice dishes.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think people register for bigger things like that thinking that a group of friends or a few families will go in on it.  I don’t think it’s a bad thing. Sometimes, the store will send you a 10% off coupon for anything left on the registry, too!

The thing that annoyed me most ever on a registry was a $98 salt shaker.  What an utter waste of money if someone purchased that.  It actually made me irate – I was yelling at my Fiance “Why does getting married mean you are entitiled to a HUNDRED DOLLAR SALT SHAKER.” 

I would be much more comfortable with a digital camera on the registry than a $98 salt shaker.

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2020

on your website could you list it as the “fun” registry and call the other “traditional”? I think it is great!

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t see anything wrong with those items. I wouldn’t be offended or think it’s weird. Between us, my Fiance and I have 5 houses and a condo. We don’t need another dish, pot, glass, piece of china, sheet, towel, or picture frame. I would definitely use the registry for things that I want since all of my needs are covered. If nobody wanted to buy anything off the registry…I wouldn’t be offended at all…but I wouldn’t fill it with a bunch of stuff that I didn’t need just to follow tradition either.

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

So, for those who would find registry items like that offensive….what are those people who already have china, dishes, pots/pans, towels, linens, duvets, pillows, random knick knacks, picture frames, potholders, and every other household item under the sun supposed to register for?  My Fiance and I own our own home, we’ve furnished it ourselves and we each lived on our own for several years before we moved in together–so we not only have all that stuff…we have it times 2!  There are certain household items that we want to replace or update, and so we registered for that, but that didn’t get us anywhere near the number of gifts you’re “supposed” to register for.  So we registered for some more camping equipment (one of our favorite hobbies), Mario Kart for Wii (my favorite game as a kid and one we STILL haven’t bought for ourselves–partially because I hate that Fiance always beats me at it), some extra Xbox controllers (specifically requested by a friend who wants to buy them for us so he doesn’t have to bring his own when he comes over), a new microphone for our Xbox because Beatles Rockband has the option to sing harmony, which we love and so do our friends, but you need a second mic….I could go on.  Everything we registered for is something we both want and will enjoy.  These are all part of enjoying our life together and building a home that we love to share with our friends.  I don’t get the problem. 

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I say register for whatever you damn well please. I think that people have NO place to judge what a couple puts on their registry. You are not demanding these items, simply indicating they are things you would like! If someone has an objection to any of the items – they don’t have to buy it!

We have furniture on our registry. I would probably drop dead if we received it (even as a group gift) but we plan to purchase it after the wedding – with our completion discount. I think that is a smart choice as a couple and I would be incredibly offended if one of our guests passed judgement on us for having it there.

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Chillmer – I totally agree!  When I see things like that it makes me crazy too.  When we were registering, I found this really cool set of coasters that were absolutely beautiful.  But when I went to scan the tag, I saw they were on sale for $130 (on sale!).  They went right back on the shelf because there is just no way we need $130 coasters in our lives – no matter who’s paying for them!

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

i think it’s based on what you are comfotable with. if they don’t want to buy it, they won’t!

dvd’s is a little wierd, as it’s not really a home item. i can see justifying a wii as a home item.

Post # 43
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I see no problem in registering for those things.  As long as YOU the bride, want them as well.  Having low-cost items is also a good thing, because some people just can’t swing a larger price tag.  We registered for all kinds of non-traditional, non-house based items, like exterior frame backpacks at REI.  The list goes on: headlamps, fishing gear, camping supplies- because that is what we both love. 

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t think it’s a huge problem either.  Sure, most traditional items are household appliances and kitchen goods, we’ve also registered for camping gear!  It’s really about what you and your Fiance need to make your house a home, and for some people it’s definitely the electronic things.  We also put digital picture frames on our registry 🙂

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Things that are inappropriate, in my opinion, are things that are for one of you, not the both of you, and anything you wouldn’t want your grandmother to see.  So your stuff seems fine, while personal hygiene stuff, sex stuff, one-person’s-but-not-the-other’s-hobby stuff, wouldn’t be so great.  But make sure there are plenty of traditional items too, or some guests will do what my mother does when she doesn’t think a registry is “appropriate” – go to Tiffany’s and buy candlesticks.  And since we’re listing what we hate to see on registries, I always see $100 trash cans, especially at Target, and think to myself never in a million years will I pay a hundred bucks for the privilege of giving someone a trash can to celebrate their marriage. 

Post # 46
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Honey Beekeeper

I think as long as it’s mixed in with the traditional stuff, you’re okay. Just don’t let him get too out of control.

An alternative would be to encourage guests (via word of mouth or your wedding website, if you have one) to buy you Target gift cards. Then you can use the gift cards on the fun stuff and no one will ever have to know. 🙂

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