(Closed) They say the difference between a girlfriend and a wife is 30 pounds

posted 5 years ago in Fitness
  • poll: How much, if any, weight did you gain after getting married?
    no weight : (81 votes)
    43 %
    1-10 pounds : (52 votes)
    28 %
    11-20 pounds : (34 votes)
    18 %
    20+ pounds : (22 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 31
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    294 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    molokoa:  Being ‘comfortable’, to me, means that we slacked off in the working out department… we were content to spend our quality time together on the couch instead of in the gym. We looked great on our wedding day, so we were like ‘oh we can order this pizza.. it’s just one time.’ And “honey? would you like some ice cream?” And repeat. We were comfortable with where we were at.. and instead of maintaining we slipped back the other direction. That’s definitely not to say people who don’t make the same mistakes as we did are any less happy or comfortable in their marriage! For my husband and I.. we’re either on a routine of working out or end up doing nothing at all.

    And then for me, I was craving the comfort food since my school life was so out of control and stressful. All of which were totally our fault.. until one day we looked in the mirror and went “ugh! what happened?” So now we’re fixing it. We got out of the habit of working out.

    Post # 33
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    3586 posts
    Sugar bee

    daisybee90:  i don’t like wine but i love to eat out. I work nights so it’s easier to wake up and grab something real fast…particularly starbucks coffee.  Although i prefer to just eat a sandwich from home because some of the fast food is just horrid. Processed meat that feels like rubber makes me want to eat healthy. Not gonna lie though i still go to these places and get stuff that doesn’t taste so bad ๐Ÿ˜€

    Post # 34
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    1624 posts
    Bumble bee

    sweetpea3363:  Ok, that makes sense. I thought people were saying that before marriage they kind of “hid” thier true selves by not eating certain foods or working out because they wanted to impress their husband, but now that they are married they are comfortable with being their true selves. Thanks for clarifying

    Post # 35
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    764 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    This will be a very interesting test for me. Not married yet, but I’m only 92 lbs and could really use the extra weight lol

    Post # 37
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    1338 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    daisybee90:  I think I gained probably about  6 pounds since getting married, which is probably about what I lost before getting married (just from stress/nerves)  so that weight isn’t much of a bother to me.  But overall, I gained about 12 pounds over three years since meeting my husband and that weight did/does bother me.  I just let go of my good habits and adopted his bad habits, which is my own fault not his, but I still can’t seem to get back to my old self for any real length of time.  

    To make matters worse, I quit smoking a few months ago and I have gained at least another 5 (maybe 7?) pounds from that!  I’m getting so fat that I’m afraid when I open my mouth to speak a big “MOOOOOO” is going to come out involuntarily.   And that a stranger is going to shame me for drinking while pregnant if I have a drink in public.  Seriously, these things go through my head.   

    I’m a cow.  I need to get my jaw wired shut like Tami did on the Real World.      

    Post # 39
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    2350 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I have def gained but I haven’t even weighed so I don’t know how much. I always gain over the holidays plus 75% of family birthdays fall between November and March. So there’s dinners, get togethers, cake n ice cream every weekend for about 3 months straight. This year is also different as I started birth control two months ago so that’s making it worse.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Post # 40
    Member
    665 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I’ve gained about 15 just while we have been dating for 4 years. I have 8 months to loose it before the wedding!!

    Post # 41
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    316 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    daisybee90:  I gained 10 pounds in the 6 months after the wedding, and Darling Husband gained about 25-30. We went on a low-carb diet and after 6 weeks I was back to wedding weight! For the past 1.5 months, I’ve held it steady as I transition to a medium carb diet (mostly all whole wheat now instead of white bread, etc). Darling Husband has lost 20 pounds since starting the diet and is getting close to his goal weight. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    We found a huge difference just trying to make low-carb versions of meals these past few months. Like we did “Loaded Sweet Potato Bites” instead of baked potatoes, but they’re piled high with cheese, bacon, sour cream etc. Or spaghetti squash instead of pasta. And so on. 

    swonderful:  I definitely think the crash diet can be true for some. I, personally, have never had any problems with weight so I didn’t diet before the wedding. After getting married, we attended 3 more out of town weddings, became less active because we had more nights in (instead of doing something active like swing dancing or walks) and we ate out more. So, getting more active again, having less trips planned, and eating at home more has made a huge difference!

    Post # 43
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    665 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    daisybee90:  I hope so! My problem is loosing 10lbs and gaining 10lbs a few times a year. I eat healthy and go to the gym for a few months, and then I cant control myself and binge eat carbs for a few months! Ugh I cant find a happy medium. 

    Post # 44
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    1039 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m going to go against the grain here but I think that a lot of it comes down to either a case of someone losing a lot of weight for the wedding then reverting back to their weight before the wedding OR getting comfortable with your SO once you live together or spend a lot more time together once you’re in a committed relationship as BF/FI/DH and you start feeding off (no pun intended) his habits ๐Ÿ˜‰

    My Darling Husband eats a lot more than I do, but he’s always been a healthy eater so with the exception of the Sunday football pizza or a few binges on nachos here and there, I’ve never had an urge to consume junk food. We tend to eat out less often but at nicer places and we’re both adventurous eaters and neither of us eats fast food.

    He also runs and goes to the gym every other day. I’m not as active but I go to yoga and spin class and I have a sweet tooth. The one thing we try to do is make our together time and date nights less centered solely around food -which is not an easy feat in winter.  I haven’t really gained/lost any weight (I usually waver 2-3 pounds depending on holiday season etc.) since we started dating and neither has he.

    Post # 45
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    2331 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    daisybee90:  I’ve gained 5 pounds and because of surgery (Not able to move, bed rest and medication). As a matter of fact, he already met me 25 or so pounds heavier than my usual because of my hip injury. He hasn’t even seen Gym bunny me yet. 

    I don’t think marriage should define your gain weight. It happens. Sometimes it just happens… You get comfortable or you go through ups and downs….. 

    My Darling Husband gained some major weight though…… He came home from a weekend away with the boys and the gut went from manageable to holy shit there it is!!!!! In 3 days lol. 

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